toddler suddenly angry and frightened pls help

[krisskross]

sorry- this is a bit long winded.

my son will be 3 in sept.

At the beg of June he started at nursery, as I went back to work a couple of weeks ago (2 days a week). We went through the settling in period and i realised I was not happy with the nursery for a range of reasons. After 3 weeks settling him in (i left him there for max 2.5hours without me) we went on holiday. on holiday we decided not to send him back because we werent happy with the nursery.

He was fine on hols, but when we got home his behaviour seems to have changed, almost overnight.

1. He has become v. frightened of going to bed, screaming, getting angry, putting it off etc etc. we have tried to be reassuring and consistent but the fear continues. Hall light is on, door open etc.

2. He has started waking sometimes crying in the night.

3. He seems v cross alot of the time, and can be quite unpleasant- shouting, banging things, deliberately throwing things etc.

THis behaviour has been going on for almost 3 weeks now (since before i went back to work). I am now back at work 2 days a week and his grandma looks after him. Hes good with her and not like this.

I am really struggling now. Hes always slept well and been happy and jolly, with usual toddler outbursts of course, but nothing like this. It feels like from the minute i open my eyes til about ten at night he is crying or shouting, its affecting us all, incluiding his one year old sister (he adores her, and is not cross with her).

Please help.

He's had quite a lot of disruption recently. Starting nursery... taking 3 weeks to settle in... going on holiday....not going to nursery any more... staying with grandma. Toddler's worlds are very small and even a slight change in routine can be very unsettling. You probably just have to be consistent about this being his new routine for a few more weeks, nip the aggressive behaviour in the bud, and he'll go back to something approaching normal.