Dd went to Blackpool for the night with my MiL on Friday, left Fri lunchtime and came back sat tea time. When she left she was all happy and smiling and looking forward to it however when she came back she was in a funny subdues mood quite defensive and pensive.
There's always a bit of a deterioration in her behaviour when she's been with mil as MiL doesn't seem to know the word "no" exists for dd, however as it's only now and again and they adore each other I don't mind so much.
However today we've had the WORST day ever with her and I'm quite worried about her emotional state, as well as how i'm going to cope on my own with her and ds (10m) tomorrow if she's like this. She's not stopped whining, screaming, crying and generally being maungy all day. She's thrown 2 toilet rolls down the loo deliberately, been a little egressive to ds which is unherad of she's usually over protective of him and adores him. I've had to time her out twice, the first time I've had to do this in over a year, and to say she's clingy of dh is an understatement. She's been his shadow and in church screamed and banged on the door when he used the loo . If he's been more than a few feet away from her she's started wailing. it's taken 2 hours to settle her to bed clinging onto both of us.
last night she said she liked Blackpool but preferred home and nearly cried. MiL called from Blackpool yesterday and was really irritable with us on the phone as she wanted to get an earlier train back with dd as it had started to rain . We'd booked and paid for a 1st class return ticket for her with allocated seats so said if she wanted to do this she may have to buy another ticket and she got in a huge huff. Knowing what she's like I expect she may have been irritable with dd because of this.
I'm worried about my little dd she's not herself and wondering what's triggered this, is it the lack of boundaries when with grandma or something deeper? feeling frightened by being separated from us maybe? Am wondering how to avoid this happeneing again, just say no to overnights with mil??