Cant Take this Shit anymore !!!!!!!!!!1

[Hai1988]

DS 4.10 never listens, constatly talks back, hits, shouts, crys all the time if u tell him off.

Really dont think i can cope all summer on my own with him like this

What am i suposed to do

Sounds like you're in a bit of a vicious circle. You need to take control and get out of it.

Start praising and cuddling him whenever you get the chance. Tell him how much you love him and how proud you are of him. Watch out for every little tiny thing he does, even accidentally, to pick up on and thank him for.

Then when he does something you don't like be disappointed and hurt but not shouting and angry, withdraw your attention as far as possible and then as soon as he has stopped the bad behaviour look for something positive to say or do.

It is really easy to write but incredibly difficult to do. However if you can get him to change from using unwanted behaviour to attract attention your relationship should improve and your summer should be much more fun.

do you have other children? is it easy to get out and about with him?

i have a very obnoxious 3.5 year old and i just have to get him out rain or shine as he is distructive and actually unpleasant if we stay in too long

at his age i image your ds is able to communicate his needs to you, and has just finished reception year?

have a look on the days out with kids website for your area which lists indoor and outdoor activities

Yep, I too was thinking vicious circle.

Don't shout, stay calm, and when he does something he shouldn't 3 mins time (4 mins is too long IMO)

Ignore the talking back, and the shouting and crying. Say firmly "No hitting" if he hits.

Distraction (and picking your battles is also a good idea).

And in about 7 weeks time he will be GOING TO SCHOOL!!!!

I love the way I so easily typed "dont shout, stay calm"

I give great advice...do as I say, not as I do!

Huge sympathy.

Day one and my 5 year old has screamed at me and hit and kicked me for most of the day. He screamed in the car park for me to stop hitting him .

He has bit his older brother and smashed a picture frame blaming his sister.

Come bed time he will only want me and will come for constant cuddles and I am that close to saying no to him.

And ds1 has ruined his trainers and I have no money at all to buy him new ones.

little buggers.....my recycling boxs is going to be rattling with empty vodka bottle at this rate (i jest, but still, you know what i mean)

they are beyond exhausting and more demanding and unreasonable then any employer could legally be

I have one exactly the same age and I am currently getting big results from using the techniques in the book "How to Talk so Kids Listen and Listen so Kids Talk". It's on Amazon (and probably in your local independent book shop).

What I like: it gives me a few more options than my previous 'Ask - Tell - Shout - Get Shitty - Manhandle' routine. He's happier and he's better behaved. I'm happier and feel like I'm actually running things well for the first time in 2 years.

It's American, so be prepared to wince a bit at some of the buddy-buddy type language, but I do very much recommend it.

If not ... just get outside. A lot. Boys do better outside, in my opinion.

Also ... you know that lots and lots kids get like this just before they start school, yes? I keep hearing similar from other parents with children starting school in September. So it's not just you and yours.

Apparently, school can help a lot ... x

I have a dilema my girl is 12yrs and I have the same prob. First weekend of the hols and I'm already thinking
Cant Take this Shit anymore !!!!!!!!!!