any recommendations are a book to help an angry 3yo?

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Or his parents .

There are a few on Amazon, and I wondered if anyone had bought them. Ds1 is cross about ds2's arrival and likes to hit.......

I've got 'how to talk......' but it's not really helping much.

I know it's not a book and I know she's very divisive on MN, but I love Supernanny personally! watched it even pre-DC and I'm sure what I learned from it has helped discipline DD. you can watch on 4od

thank you!

I got the supernanny book and a book called 'I'm Sorry' on order from the library - yay!

I offer ds1 to help out but mainly he says 'no'.

The aggression is towards me / other children. Not ds2 thankfully, although I don't leave them alone together anyway.

Any one else?

I am going through HELL at the moment with my DD1 3years.

She hits me and my DH and DD2 (1 year) and only this morning I got a hairbrush thrown at me because I tried to help her get dressed! And that was only because she was going to be late for her holiday club trip!

DD2 wasnt here so it couldnt have been jealousy this morning. She just flies into a rage, like a red mist type of thing. At 3yrs I can neither believe it or know how to deal with it.

I mentioned it at nursery this morning and was more upset to hear that they have noticed it towards other children, although relieved at same time to know it isnt just with us!?!?! is that bad?!?!?!

Anyway, I already have the 'im sorry' book etc and hate to rain on your parade but i am now CLUELESS as to what to do!!!!

(No help from me but loads of empathy!)

I know that this probably seems way out there, but I think that since the new childminder has started a few weeks ago my ds has really been stretching the boundaries. We have never used the expression 'Good boy' and she uses it constantly. I think that children see it as conditional love and so he is trying things out and seeing if we still love him when he acts in ways that we don't like. He talks a lot about being good or not being good at things - he seems in inner turmoil about on the one hand wanting to please so that he's 'a good boy' and on the other wanting to do what he wants.

an update. We got the supernanny book. I read it, and basically it reminded me to keep calm, consistent and also perhaps I am expecting too much of Ds. So less choice, more warnings etc etc.

Also I got a book called 'I'm Angry' from the library. Ds is really interested in it and asks for it to be read to him. I hesitate to say he's calmer but just seeing anger written about seems to have helped.

There's a book called 'there's a volcano in my tummy' which I know some people find helpful. Also, 'Anna's big bag of worries' might be worth a look; it's not about anger per se but if he's worried it may translate into anger on occasions.