Will DD like new sibling?

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Hi,
I was outside my Dr's the other day to get my pregnancy confirmed when my DD (out of the blue as she doesnt know she might get another sibling) declared she doesnt want a little brother or sister...
I was wondering how your FB's coped with a new baby arriving and if your FB's werent happy what did you do?
Thanks.

I bet if you visited a friend with a new baby she'd change her mind.

Most children seem to have days when the sibling is seen as a right royal PITA and others when the sibling is wonderful and loved to bits.

She'll be fine. Just leave it a while before you tell her.

Try not to worry too much or take it to heart if she is less than enthusiastic tries to murder little brother at times. There will be other times which will compensate for that.

Nah, she probably won't. Not all the time. Not at first, anyway. But she will eventually. Probably. Or she might straight away. Who knows?

I have a 2 yr age gap.

My dd was squeaking with anticipation prior to her baby bro being born.
Then he arrived and she HATED him.
Then they had an uneasy truce.
Now they utterly adore each other and play together every day (excluding sibling squabbles).
And she wants another baby sibling (who she will probably hate when it gets here...)

Dh and I were saying earlier that without a shadow of a doubt, the 100% best thing we have ever done for our children is give them each other. I sometimes think Dd and Ds love and like each other more than they do their father and I. It's fab.

Honestly?

Probably not.

but if we left it to the first child to decide whether or not we should have a second, the human race would have died out.

She might like it by the time it's 25.

how old is she?

ds1 did NOT like his new sibling. he was 2yrs 9 months. it was just the wrong time for him. he still really resents his brother and in the few months after he was born he talked a lot about when would the baby go away again and stuff

ds1 and ds2 both ADORE ds3 tho!

thanks for all your replies. DD is 4, so there will be a large age gap. Something me and DH regret. But I do feel she needs a sibling, she has half brothers but never gets to see them though she really does adore them. I think you are right, she will go through a hating stage but in the end it will all work out well.
Thanks again.

My DD1 was 3 when we had DD2.

She was very nervous and upset before we had DD2, she was worried about how it would impact on her. I remember asking her how she felt about having a new baby and she said 'worried' and 'upset'.

But once DD2 was here, everyone (my parents in particular) made an effort to make a fuss of DD1. For example, when mum came round she would always pay attention to DD1 first, and always say things like "I like big girls, babies are boring" that sort of thing. It was what DD2 needed to hear at the time. Mum and dad also made the effort to give DD1 special 'big girl' time and days which she loved.

Luckily, the anxiousness DD1 felt all happenned before the birth, and once DD2 was here, they utterly adored each other, and now almost four years later they still adore each other (although, they also squabble too )

I am pregnant for the first time so have no experience with my own children.

However I was 6 nearly 7 when my sister was born and I didn't like her much. Mainly because we were supposed to be going to Disneyland and then couldn't once mum found out she was pregnant. I still haven't forgiven her. She was a very difficult baby and took a lot of attention, which I resented.

I do love her now though and consider her a close friend but it did take about 15 years

My dds are 4 3/4 years apart and, to be honest, it has taken them sooooo long to tolerate each other..everyone tells me it's because of "the age gap" but, I think, it's just down to personality - dd1 is sensitive, artistic and quiet , dd2 is an extrovert, attention-seeking and !"£""!

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my ds was 4 when I was pregnant with my dd..They have nearly a 5 year gap. I was worried how he would cope after being the only child but he's been brilliant....In fact I think he loves her a bit too much (he never stops kissing her and is rarely away from her side...i think she may be more annoyed by the whole thing than him)

I very much gave him the option to be involved in my pregnancy...He came to all the scans, wrote his own list of names etc..He loved the responsibility.

Also the pound shop was my friend...(they stock loads of cheap toys) so every time i went on a shopping trip to get ready for the baby I popped in to the poundshop and bought him a toy..so he didnt feel she was getting and he wasn't...

Even if your dd doesnt take to the idea, I'm sure she will eventually...The age gap is lovely...As my ds is quite independant and if he doesn't want to play with her he plays on his own..

p.s congratulations xx

DD1 was 4 and a half when DD2 arrived. Since then DD1 has announced, more than once, "my life is SO much better now I have a little sister". I'm not sure what that says about life beforehand! The girls adore each other and although I would never have chosen an age gap that meant DD1 was at school by the time DD2 was 3 months old it does seem to be working; both girls get their own time with us, doing their own thing and they get to play with each other too. DD2's biggest giggles are saved for DD1 and DD1's loveliest side comes out for DD2.

DD2 was a welcome surprise but we won't be providing them with a brother (much to DD1's disappointment).