I know we've had threads like this before, but I think it's usually been with younger children, but I'm getting pretty fed up now. 3.5 year old DD sits and rocks/humps back and forward on the edge of a hard chair for a large part of the day, every day ? not just when she's tired/upset or anything. We've spoken gently about how it's something you do by yourself, in your room, and all that, but it is making absolutely no difference at all. I tell her in advance, when people are coming round to the house, that she shouldn't do it but it never makes the slightest bit of difference, so when they are round it's sooooo obvious, and I'm constantly "accidentally" pushing her chair with my foot, trying to distract her, etc ? but you can't keep her away from a chair all day!
I would be ok with her doing it in front of me/DP and siblings, if she would just stop doing it in front of guests! But her speech totally starts to ramble when she's doing it, and I do get irritated ? it's a bit offputting trying to have a normal conversation with someone pleasuring themselves in front of you! ? so I say things like "I can't hear what you're saying properly when you're rocking" ... but NO difference at all. I'll ask her to please stop, then turn round 10 seconds later and she'll be at it again.
I don't do "punishment" anyway, but I certainly wouldn't want to punish her for something like this ? of course it's normal and gives her nice feelings, and I don't want to give her a complex. But it's doing my head in watching it ALL the time!! She's been doing it more and more often for about the last year.
Any ideas most welcome! Thanks.