3 year old DS swearing

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Am new to this so please be kind and apologies if in wrong thread. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago my DS said fing a couple of times out of context, I said this is the wrong word he means flipping. All was well until bath time tonight when he dropped sponge and said fing and continued saying it, would not accept alternative word. What should I do, I don't swear but DH does. Am really upset and worried he says it at nursery and in front of GPs

You'll have to tell DH to stop it!
Introduce the swear jar.
Kids are picking up all sorts from those they are around, granted it doesnt reflect well on you what he is saying but many go through this.
I would go for a different punishment, if I swore when I was little I would have got soap in the mouth! Yuck, not suggesting that, dont think it's allowed today??
Try the naughty step?
Take away a favourite toy?
I'm sure more MN'ers will be along to help soon.

TBH, making a fuss often exacerbates it. We told DD, thats not a nice word and left it at that - the more you try and stop them the more they do it I think. The swearing lasted about 3 weeks (and very rarely IYSWIM) and I think because she got no attention for it (and tempered our own potty mouths , she stopped it fairly quickly.

No one is perfect though are they?

DH will have to stop swearing in front of him.

I wouldn't punish him for it. I have taken 2 approaches

1. Ignore ignore ignore. if you react it just gives power to the words.

2. My FIL affectionately calls ds 'little bu**er' despite us asking him not to. We have explained there are some bad words that can make people upset when you say them. If he ever uses one we just say 'that's a bad word. we don't use that word do we?'. Now if anyone says a bad word in his prescence he tells them off!!

Sort your DH out. Mine was a big swearer until the DCs were born; now he saves it for when they are absent. It is possible. My oldest is eight and has never yet sworn to our knowledge!

When my children have sworn I told them that only naughty people swear, nice children don't say rude words. This has worked for me.

I have a friend who told her son if he wanted to say such rude words he needed to go to the bathrooma nd say them as they are not words she wanted to hear. That worked with her ds

Even if your dh doesn't swear they do her swearing when out and about on bus/ at park etc. So asking your dh to tone downa bit may help, but isnt the only answer

Swearing is a phase young children, especially boys, go through. They pick loads of naughty words up on the school playground.

It needs nipping in the bud. How are you lot on youngsters using slang words from cartoon,etc.

Do those of you in England prefer your children to speak standard English; or is it ok to just speak like mum and dad? Posh seems to be a factor in England. When an english person opens his mouth you know his station in life. (I dont mean Kings Cros. }

Treat me gently I am new And do humour with the serious stuff.
I seem to be slipping to the side. steady