PLEASE tell me your 2 year old has been HELL today

[tryingtobemarypoppins2]

I TOTALLY lost the plot with DS 2:9months today. ITS BEEN A VERY VERY BAD day. He just wouldn't do anything I asked today, tantrums over EVERYTHING. In the end before I went mad I put him in the garden and shut the door
I felt terrible and he went bonkers, I fully expect the neighbours to be on the phone to social services as he was screaming to come back in but I really needed 1 min to gather myself after he had made me so cross. Was this a terrible thing to do, he was outside for no more than 2 mins but was very upset?

DS 2.2 had his moments today. Whipped me with toy fishing rod, refused to get dressed in anything except a swimming nappy then had major, major tantrum when I asked him to sit down for dinner. I had to just sit and watch him scream for 10 mins as he wanted to play on his trampoline. Broke my heart but what could I do - he wouldn't listen to my reasoning of have dinner then you can play on trampoline.

Then all of a sudden he stopped crying and sat down and ate his fish fingers. Crazy little dude

Tomorrow will be better. If not, put him in a creche for an hour and have a massage

My DD is 2 next week and yesterday i had a day just like yours. DD had 3 time outs in her room yesterday after being a nightmare all day.
The same whining/dramatics over anything and everything. Not doing as she was asked, blatently ignoring me and continuing doing what she was doing despite me asking her not to.

Shes Jekyl and hyde at the mo... one day a nightmare like yesterday where i could of easily killed her but today shes been an absolute dream!

Better you take a minute or too that completely flip!

I think it's better than having them inside with you when you are furious

My 3yo is quite horrible at the moment too. She wakes up spoiling for a fight. Kicked DS within 5mins of getting up today

They are so wearing when they are super stroppy.

No, but my 3 year old has, for days now. Is driving me mad. But on the plus side she went to bed on time today, so silver linings and all that.

Had a GP appointment, and DS (2.4) was screaming/shrieking in the waiting room. A woman kept saying, 'oh dear' after DS screamed, and then he would scream, 'OH DEAR!' Finally, I asked her, 'what do you think I should be doing that I';m not already doing?' (had toys/snacks/drinks that I kept trying to bribe him with)

Get to GP's office and DS proceeds to bite me .

And this evening, I went upstairs and him and DD (4) got a bag of sugar from the cupboard and some spices and chucked them on the floor.

Both sent to bed at 7pm.

I am amazed we all survived! LOVE the idea of the creche and a massage!!

Mine is 6 weeks short of 2 and was the devil incarnate at Blenheim Palace today as was her little 2 year old friend - It must be the weather or a collective stroppy 2 year old force that is flowing across the country!

DD started at 6am and has finally, after napping in the car, gone to bed in a strop with yelling about taking her clothes off, putting PJs on, wanting a story her choosing a story and apparently I read it wrong!

I have eaten a rather large chocolate pudding and am going to bed in hopes of a better day tomorrow!

DS (3.5) has been an absolute angel today. We've been to visit my sister and her 3 day old baby today and he sat in the car for more than 3 hours without throwing a tantrum and he was amazingly gentle with the new baby - even giving her cute little kisses on her head. He played nicely and quietly while we were there and has eaten everything I've given him all day without complaint.

I'm not telling you this to be smug. He was a little toerag last week and I got so close to the end of my teather that the second DH got home from work, I grabbed my keys and stormed out of the front door because I could not bear to be stuck in this house with him for one more second!!!

Some days are awful and some days are fantastic (admittedly seemingly more skewed to the awful for the toddling years) and I think the most we can hope for on some of the bad days is not actually harming them in frustration!!

You did well. Having 2 minutes to breathe deeply and calm down is probably what you both needed. Maybe shut yourself in the garden next time to draw less attention from the neighbours though

Currently my 2 yr old is hell for approximately 40% of the day. 50% she's asleep, the other 10% she's adorable. .

I feel your pain

My DD (2.9) was genuinely naughty for the first time at nursery yesterday... She went to the loo (it's what they do in her group if they're potty trained etc and is in easy range of main room) and took a bit longer than usual. One of her carers went to see if she was ok and found that she was busy emptying the soap dispenser all over the floor and banging the door, etc. She wasn't told off; was just told nicely "we don't do that, DD". She burst into tears etc and was v embarrassed. The nursery staff find this quite amusing as all the children do something similar at some point but I am horrified. Anyway, she was a nightmare yesterday and today she wasn't much better. She was desperate to go outside to play with her slightly older friend (obviously I go too and hover nearby, etc) but she then pulled the cat's tail so she had to stay in. Not a happy girl! It's bloody relentless at the moment - arguing with me about everything. I can't wait until she's a teenager

Thank goodness it is not just me - that's what any parent of a toddler would say I reckon! DS would have gone out in his Thomas PJ top and nothing else if he had has his way this morning. Wondering how many times I can be an hour late for work and use the toddler tantrum excuse!!

Once heard a teacher say that she dreaded windy days as it seemed to make children a lot worse behaved, so maybe it was partly that?

I'm having a lovely break hard day in the office, complete with uninterrupted cups of tea and internet access...!

Hi, I'm that smug mummy who knows how to deal with it all .

My DD3 is 2 and an absolute NIGHTMARE!
Her old DS are 6 and she thinks she is 6 too (even answers that if you ask her how old she is!)

So, she's got the reasoning skills of a 2 year old i.e. NONE and some of the attitude of a 6 year old.

I am that calm mummy you see around town.
The solution?

I am incredibly thick skinned.
You can't second guess 2 year olds and work out what's going to make them flip out.
You can't reason with 2 year olds.
You can't be sure that after 40 minutes of howling about some old gubbins that they are unable to communicate to you, that they won't stop and start beaming as they notice they've got fingers!

So, so long as DD isn't hurting herself or anyone else, she rages at her leisure. And I sit and smile and occasionally shrug my shoulders and say "Pff! 2 year olds eh".
It sounds (and is) crazy, but d'you know what? we've all been 2 and we all know what 2 year olds are.
There are a few places where I wouldn't be happy to let her kick off, but sometimes even that can't be helped (e.g. doc surgery when DD is the patient).

MaryPoppins! You're not just trying to be her, you're suceeding. You put him in the garden and calmed down. That's perfect! Don't feel bad. You distracted him (there's loads to look at/do in the garden) and dealt with your anger away from him.
And 2 minutes in garden, the perfect length of time out for a 2 year old!!!

Though this is all a bit toungue in cheek, it's true. And OK, I confess, I didn't know this the first time around and so got stressed when DD's tantrumed in public but now, I do know.
Don't feel bad guys, you've got a good 60 years or so to think about how badly your going to behave in the nursing home!

Bongirl Everyone at school is entertained by my DD who is 2. Many have commented that they love to come to school to see what she'll be wearing!

Most of her time (including time asleep) is spent in one of her (numerous) tu-tu's.
Sometimes she likes to wear her pig or spider outfit to school.

I just pick my battles.
It's no skin off my nose if she looks like a... ...2 year old!!

I'm thinking of starting an exercise class called Mum Rage.

The idea is that we all get to release all that pent up frustration from being the adult all the time when all we want to do is scream back, throttle them or slam the door and walk out.

I think Mum Rage would need lots of boxing moves and lots of primal screaming.... and maybe some post exercise chocolate and cocktails.

The best thing about my two year old boss is that sometimes, just sometimes, she says I love you!

And frankly, I'm putty in her hands (and we both know it!)

I have had a really bad day with my 2.9 year old, which ended with him crying himself to sleep for 20 minutes after getting up several times before that and being put to bed. I was please with myself that I did not loose my temper in front of him and I did not give up when he screamed MUMMY for 20 minutes!! I feel I have spent most of the day putting him in time out... It's reassuring everyone else struggles as I was close to tears today when he bite me at tea time!! I just hope this 'phase' passes quickly before I need to start taking medication

Candinha, I'm glad to hear there is one 2-year-old in bed, mine is currently in the bathroom playing with his potty and shows no signs of tiredness! Little does he know that tomorrow he is being kept up the whole day so he zonks out at 7 and I can have a large glass of wine!

Great post Easywriter!!
Hang in there Candinha, its a bloody nightmare some days!

Loving the Mum Rage classes!!

My DS, 22mths, isn't bad as toddlers go (yet), he has his off days where everything is 'NO' and he opposes everything I try and do or suggest so I try to ignore it as much as I can unless he is hurting another child or doing something naughty or dangerous but I have come to realise that when he is having an off day it's more often than not because he is tired (didn't sleep very well the night before or went to bed later than usual) or he is unwell with a cold or somesuch illness so I try and go a bit easier with him on these days and let him have his dummy (which usually I only give at sleep times) as it usually comforts him and keeps him calm and just let him watch cbeebies.

Just wanted to say thanks for the re-assuring words. One more bed routine down, only 25 minutes of putting him back in his bed today and he didn't bite his sister all day - not a bed day if I can relax before 8pm!!

tx