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Help Naughty Boy... distressed of Weston...

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Dustie · 21/07/2003 16:58

Hi All,

HB is a great little kid, he's full of spirit, fun and frivolity, he has a wicked sense of humour and generally he's a fun kid to have around. However, the horns appear once I've dropped him at school.

I found out the other day that he's mooning during break, if he finishes his work, then he scribbles on other kids work, he ignores whats asked of him, academically he's switched on, they have no complaints about him as they've said he can produce really good work. But its the behaviour, he throws his toys out the pram if he doesn't get his own way....

Has anyone any ideas, he doesn't get heaps of chocolate, he's rewarded for good behaviour at home and I certainly don't see what hte teachers are telling me. But... his father and I divorced over a year ago, and I suppose his father doesn't really take an active role in his life, and his punishment method is hit first which I totally disagree with.

Thanks - Chrissie in the UK about to pull her hair out.

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codswallop · 21/07/2003 18:31

Is he bored ?

anais · 21/07/2003 22:43

I agree, if he only displays this behaviour at school, I would imagine he's bored.

boyandgirl · 22/07/2003 09:36

Sounds like a classic highly-intelligent child who's not getting enough stimulation and recognition at school. The National Association of Gifted Children (sorry, don't know their url) should be able to advise you.

Dustie · 23/07/2003 11:52

Thanks for all your advice, I did actually wonder if he was bored..... It appears the teacher that he currently has just sees him as distracting... I did however suggest that she sgive him additional stuff to do, but that was met with recentment. Personally I don't think she can handle boisterous children. I went onto the link for gifted kids and did the test that they have on there and he came out at 77, so there is definately potential. Now what to do with the information.

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aloha · 23/07/2003 12:13

dustie, the teacher sounds rubbish. HOw long will your son have to put up with her? I would talk to the head if poss to ask for your son to be given more challenging and interesting stuff to do. Also, concerned about your ex - is he hitting your son? I think you should stop this ASAP.

Dustie · 23/07/2003 14:51

Hi

Yes he has hit him and to be quite honest I hate it, I'm not sure how much he is hitting him as I'm not there to see it, and unfortunately if you ask a 5 year old, the answer could be inflated... but I've ask the ex to stop it, and he's said he has... I agree the teacher is rubbish, but the headmistress thinks the sun shines out of her you know what....

My ex actually accussed me of not interacting with him enough after he made his first and only visit to the school, the teachers told him what he's like. Yeah right...

Its very frustrating as my little boy is having to learn two sets of rules, one set is enough.. but my ex is relaxed with him about what he says and does etc along iwth mannners.... sometimes I feel I'm fighting an uphill battle.

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MandyD · 24/07/2003 22:12

Dustie, could you give me the link for testing whether a child is gifted that you refer to?

My son is starting Reception class in September and he's very forward in maths and science. The school has a programme for gifted children, I'd like to find out if he could be qualified to be on it. Thanks.

Dustie · 30/07/2003 13:29

Hiya,

Its... www.nagcbritain.org.uk/cgi-bin/quest.pl

Hope this helps

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