Practical tips needed!

[Greatgoing]

I have 2 DS's-15 months and a newborn of 6 weeks and I really need some advice or tips of how to run my day!

At the moment I am receiving help from my wonderful mum and a bit from mil but this is finite.

My new baby is lusty and physical and requires lots of settling which is my duty and pleasure but nigh on impossible with my other baby at active toddler phase.

I am feeling useless and panicky and getting increasingly irritated by people just telling me it will 'just get easier'. I really would love some ideas or advice from other people who had two babies close in age.

I bought a sling (Kari Me) but it is hopeless in this hot weather. My little baby is a very hot little thing and we both just get totally overheated.

I know i am sleep deprived which is not helping my panic but I just cant imagine how I am going to get through the day on my own. If anyone can give me some tips I would be so grateful.feeling crap and a rubbish mum. I thought I would be able to cope.[]

There is 13 months between my two dcs and I was in pretty much the same situation.
I found that by feeding them at the same time, ds in a high chair (booster seat type that straps onto a real chair but put on the floor) and dd in her bouncy chair meant that dd would then sleep for a bit (I would put her still in the bouncy chair into the play pen) after her milk and I could play with ds for a while. Ds then went in the playpen for the inbetween feeds, ds was very happy to play on his own for a while and dd enjoyed a cuddle feed.
I trained them to both have naps after lunch so I could run around the house cleaning or have a nap with them.
Don't you dare feel useless you'll soon get used to juggling your ds' it's just a case of finding what works for you, prioritise what needs to be done but so long as your children are shown affection, fed and clean you're doing fine, enjoy them whilst they are so young because they grow really fast.
It really won't be long until their needs are pretty much the same but ime this doesn't mean it's easier, it's just different. My dcs are the best of friends, as thick as thieves but boy do they row!
I really do recommend playpens to separate the dcs but don't use it as a punishment for either of them.

Greatgoing I have 18 months between mine and all I can really say is that I struggled for about the first six months after the second was born. It was very very tough - it's like starting all over again. I can't offer any words of wisdom other than don't beat yourself up or think you're no good at this mothering lark. You are! It's just a very big adjustment and you essentially have two babies to look after. I look back sometimes and marvel at how young DD was when DS was born and how the hell I coped - yours are even younger.

So even though you don't want to hear it I will say it does get better, it does get easier. But I can't promise it will be yet. Now (mine are 4 and 2.5) I love that there's small age gap. Be kind to yourself!