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Having issues with my 5yr old DS1, not sure if its normal behaviour or how to deal with it.

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 11/07/2010 17:35

DS1 is 5 (6 in September) we are still finding his behavious really difficult to handle, it seems a silly thing to say so i hope you will understand what i mean when i say he is still very young for his age.

We get alot of pronounced put on lisping and baby talk, he puropusly mispronounced words and rolls around the floor making really silly faces ect, this wouldnt be a problem except it is all the time.

He also has no awareness of personal space and what is socially acceptable (sp?) for instance he feels it is ok to come and put his mouth all over me and run his face in my chest, pull my top down ect.
He also never grew out of the stange of putting everything in his mouth he always has his finger or toes in his mouth and they are getting very sore.
He will sit for ages just repeating a rilly sill sound over and over for no apparent reason.

He also has the attention span of a goldfish.

All of the above the school have noticed and mentioned as he is the same at school, he is noticabley younger in his behavious than his peers even though he is the eldest in the class, this has lead him to be held back in reception classroom but will officially still be in yr1.

He has Cystic Fibrosis and his healthcare team are at a bit of a loss as well what to do with him, they refered him to CAHMS but they wont see him they are saying there are other services more appropriate, they havent said wich ones but luckily his consultant is fighting our corner to get some help from them.

I am yet to find a punishment or discaplin method that works for him he simply doesnt care about anything enough to worry about it being taken away or anything, i ignore what i can but the problem is DFS will step it up a notch each time until it is impossible to ignore him.

He cannot play alone and if asked to he will follow my closely around or go and wind up his younger brother until again i cannot ignore him.

It is becoming a real problem, i think it is rhaving an effect on making friends at school as from what i can see in the playground he is unfortunatley becoming quite annoying to his peers, he has had a few friendships but they have tailed off pretty quickly.

He has struggled at school with reading and writing also, he is also very lacking in confidence so is scared to take part in many activities.

I want to help him but i need to also get through to him that his behavious is not acceptable (sp?)

Does anyone have any suggestions, life is really getting tough becuase everything is such a war at the moment, from getting dressed, bedtime, meal times.

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PixieOnaLeaf · 11/07/2010 17:50

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 11/07/2010 18:00

Thanks for replying, is this something the school could arrange or the GP/hospital?

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 11/07/2010 18:14

I shall investigate, luckily our school has a very helpful and well staffed special needs unit, i think what ever happens i might ask if he can have a few sessions in there a week just to get some one on one teaching with the teacher in there to try and bring him up to a normal level, at least until we can get some extra support.

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HouseofCrazy · 11/07/2010 18:18

Except for the reading and writing thing, oh and the eating toes thing, this is my DS to a tee! Especially the annoying his peers thing - does yours get sillier and sillier and just go to far to be annoying?

Will watch this thread with interest! But I definitely feel for you with the warring. Ds also answers back as well and argues and wee too, have yet to find his 'currency'.

TitsalinaBumSquash · 11/07/2010 18:26

Yes HOC DS does just get sillier and more physical until you can see the other kids activly trying to get away from him, he doesnt het invited to parties much either.

SOmethings are just beyond frustrating though, once upon a time my ace card was that however he behaved he always ate really well, he would eat everything and anything, but the last few weeks he hates everything i give him even things he used to really love.

Everything he touches he throws, everything his foot comes close to he kicks.
His reading and writing isnt to bad he is only grasping the very basic skills though and he still isnt showing any signs of being either right or left handed, he still picks up a pen or pencil in whichever hand it is closer to, his coulouring is still wild scribbles and his writng although getting very slowley better is in most parts unreadable.

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 11/07/2010 20:47

Any other input on this?

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Fel1x · 11/07/2010 20:57

A lot of what you say sounds similar to my ds. He has just been diagnosed with aspergers. Obviously not saying your ds has it too but it might be worth looking up to see if your ds fits any of the other symptoms?

Oblomov · 11/07/2010 21:18

some of what you describe , i am having the same problems. but my ds1(6.6) is an angel at school. my friend from my PN group on MN is having similar problems to me - i'm sure she won't mind me naming her - LacksaDaisycal. and another poster posted on my thread the other day, and then started her own - Millie1. so you are not alone, is thats any help.
we all have the problem of a child who appears not to care about any punishment or reward offered. this makes you quite powerless, because you have no bargaining tool.
I am afraid that i have no suggestions. we have been refered to the consulant and hope to be seen by a child pyschologist. although what parenting technique they will tell me to use, that i haven't already done, i wait to see !!

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