DP Disagreement! Am I being unreasonable??!!

[planner26]

Hi,

I wanted to know what other MNers thought, as I really don't think I am being unreasonable on this...

We don't know if we are having a boy or girl but are decided on a girl's name if so (Molly Beth - we chose it together). However, if it's a boy it's looking like Jack but my DP is pushing for his mother's maiden name as the middle name, which is also his middle name. Even taking the family connection out of it I am not keen on this name at all, and think it is unfair he is pushing for it as baby planner26 is already going to have his last name as well (we are not married).

Also, MIL makes no effort with us and is a pretty selfish person who my SIL has informed me would 'over the moon' if we gave baby that name as it would be after her (to make matter more confusing her first name is Jacqueline).

I feel really annoyed with my DP about this. We have a really good relationship and rarely argue but I'm getting really down and wondering if I am being unreasonable not wanting his choice?

I just think we should pick a name between us that we BOTH actually LIKE!

Have the name as an extra middle name and have other names you agree on.

Start pushing for some more out there names such as Agamemnon Raif and eventually he will be so relieved you have gone off them he will agree to anything.

YANBU - he is.

You both need to at least like and agree on the name. You make a very good point that the baby already has his surname. Tell him that if this middle name is so important to him, then the baby has your surname.

See how he likes them apples.

No. Put your sur name as the middle name regardless of the sex of the child. I wish I'd done this.

My x and I weren't married when dc were born and I regret rollling over and being so pathetic. I wanted to put my sur name is as their middle names and he over ruled me. Grrrrrr.

Is it unreasonable to want to like your baby's name? Of course not. I wouldn't entertain the idea at all, I'd just say I don't like it, end of.

I like 5DollarShake's idea.

If you're not married I really recommend using your surname as a mn as travel abroad can get sticky if there's no obvious way to identify you and the DC as related, depending on the airport and how bad a day immigration control is having.

One surname from his side of the family is enough - so ask him if he wants his surname or his mothers?! I agree with the other recommendations that it should be your surname as the middle name. I bet he didn't consider that?!

Good luck!

Yes use your surname as a middle name.

Definitely your surname as a middle name. Or your surname as surname, of course. I am still gutted that DD has her father's surname & I was relegated to middle name.