Need reassurance on Caspar and Aurelia please

[CakeandRoses]

Only a few weeks to go before DC2 arrives and I'm having a last minute wobble about names.

DH and I like unusual but not too -way-out names.

We originally loved Caspian and nearly ended up with this for DS1. This time round we decided early on that whilst we still loved it, it might be a little poncetastic to actually live with. So months ago, we settled on Caspar for a boy.

With girls it was much trickier as DH and I have totally different taste in girls names, eventually, after much debate he suddenly said that Aurelia (my no 1 name) was growing on him. And then it kind of became the default girls name as nothing else came up that we could come close to agreeing on.

Anyway, I've recently asked him if he's sure he's happy with both of these names (given we've stopped discussing other possibilities and so the baby will definitely have one of these two names) and he says he's 'fine' with them . When pushed for more, he said he's happy with Caspar, less so with Aurelia but ok to go with it.

I know I should just be pleased that he's agreed with 'my' names but actually I feel a bit on my own with them iyswim? I'm now worrying that in my hormonal state, I've chosen names which I love but aren't really 'practical' to be called.

We decided not to share names with friends/family until the baby is born and names so I can't run the names by anyone in RL to get any reassurance.

Please help!

Not really sure what I'm looking for here - maybe just some reassurance from parents of Caspars/Aurelias?

Thank you!

Isn't the girl's name a bit like the bit around your nipple?

Wait until the baby is born, then call it what you like. Much harder for people to criticise a name when it's already attached to a baby.

I like Casper, but probably wouldn't go for it myself.

I love the name Aurelia - think it's very pretty.

They're both good names and if you like them, you should go for them. I take it your DH hasn't come up with any other alternatives which either he or you like more? I mean, sure, he sounds a bit half-hearted about both of them, but then if he doesn't have any he likes more, you might as well go with them.

Good luck!

Don't like Casper, it reminds me of a certain friendly ghost, however Caspian is lovely, as is Aurelia.

Both are lovely and both travel well. Go for it!

I wouldn't use Caspar as a Kasper is the German word for a well known (punch & judy) clown and it is often used to describe someone being silly ("Du Kasper").

Caspian is much, much nicer and sounds more like a proper name to my ears.

Aurelia is lovely.

Love Aurelia despite it being mil name. Less keen on Caspar, prefer Caspian.

Sometimes the names you have throughout the pregnancy are discarded in the heat of the moment.

Ypu might end up with Janet and John

I know a casper and aurelia. If it helps, they have v pretentious parents and we snigger at them calling their children in the playground

Agree re. Caspar - it is indeed this clown: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Eggink01.jpg

I do like Caspian, though.

Arghh,

Bessie123 - What kind of place/school is it? Just wondering because I don't think the names would be seen as pretentious here but I guess we do live in a relatively poncey place.

I knew about the caspar=clown thing in Germany but I'm not worried about it, it's a proper name here and lots of names mean something odd in other countries.

I'm v surprised about the positivity towards Caspian as it was not received too well when we (stupidly) told people about it when I was pg with DS1. In the end, I felt it didn't sound like a proper name but that's not what some of you are saying.

I think we're probably too wedded to Caspar to sway towards Caspian again now though. I think...

I like caspar - unless you visit german regularly I wouldn't worry.

Not sure about the girls name - I'm not sure how to say it (although that shows my ignorance!) I also had the nipple thought when I saw it.

We had a name that was definately going to be used and ended up with something completely different. Good luck and whatever the name you'll both end up loving it and the person the name becomes.

When I hear Caspian I think of the sea - a bit like using North or Atlantic for a name - although come to think of it they are quite nice

cake and roses London, but not a posh bit. I actually think either name is ok on its own, it's the 2 together (with an even more pretentious 3rd one that I can't post or it will be too obvious if the parents read this who I'm talking about) that makes us laugh.

Thanks loler. Nope, we don't have any German links or even any plans to go there. We go to Italy a lot so would be more worried if it meant something silly there but even then that probably wouldn't be enough to stop us using it.

Don't get me started on the pronunciation of Aurelia as there's at least three different ways! We're intending to pronounce it Or - Rell- Ee- A with the stress on the Rell.

I've heard a few people (on MN) say the nipple thing before but again, loads of names can have odd associations/nick-names so unless they're v obvious and negative then it's probably not worth worrying about.

Bessie123 - ah, I see. I can imagine that the two together plus a third 'pretentious' name they could seem a bit comical especially if they're the only ones with names like that in the school!

We have a Felix already and I'm now wondering about the combined pretentiousness of Felix/Caspar or Felix/Aurelia!

Not keen on Caspar.

Aurelia is nice, although I'd pronounce it Or-ee-lia.

I like both

Both`Casper and Felix were on my boys shortlist (i had a girl) and still like both - much prefer Caspar to Caspian and don't think the ghost assossciation matters.

I don't like Aurelia very much - spent ages trying to find a latin girls name i did like and finally admitted defeat.

I really like both!

I like Caspar and Caspian a lot. Felix is great too!
Aurelia is pretty but it is a little similar to areola. Would you use a nn? I prefer Aurora personally.

Some might see the names as pretentious but if you like them, I wouldn't worry. Children are given such a wide variety of names nowadays, I don't think they will stand out that much, especially if you live in London

Thank you everyone - I'm so pleased to hear that some of you like them and that I haven't completely lost my marbles in a hormonal swirl!

missgenevieveclave - I like Aurora too but find it a bit of a mouthful even tho its actually shorter than Aurelia. Probably will end up using a nn but think we'll see how that develops rather than deciding now as there's not a set few that other people will just choose from if you don't get in there first and pick one (e.g. like Beth/Liz etc from Elizabeth)

stokey - we obviously have the same taste in boy's names and Latin names if not girls!