How did you deal with people who didn't like your baby's name?

[Teddyisonhisway]

We're going to call our son Teddy (it will be Edward on the birth certificate).
I thought that when you announced the name you'd chosen, people said "lovely, very nice", even if they don't like it - that's what I've always done anyway, anything else is rude! Okay, it's different if you're asking someone's opinion ("what do you think of Teddy?" "No, I don't really like that, sorry"), but I never did! So far SIL says he will be bullied, and my (racist) dad says we can't call him that because it's a Jewish name (WTF???). We're calling him Teddy regardless because we love it, was just wondering how do you respond with friends and relatives who hate the name you've picked? Or should I just be less sensitive and try not to give one ?

I called my son Rufus. When I told my freind, she said "Are you taking the piss? Is he a fucking Labrador?"

Then she said "What made you choose Rufus?

So I said "What made you choose Megan?" (her daughter`s name)

She went quiet, and then all defensive. I havn`t spoke to her from that day to this.

Funny, I know loads of labradors named Megan, none called Rufus.

DS3 is Barnabas and I've had all sorts of rude comments to which I have said, "F**k off you moron, Jayden is a bloody horrible name and Draylon IS NOT EVEN A NAME!!!!" Only in my head though . My mum still insists on calling him Barney even though we never do. Teddy is a lovely name and all the Teddys I have met have been nice boys. MIL chose DH's name to deliberately annoy relatives.

I'm not looking for people to tell me they like the name I've picked, I just don't expect blatant rudeness from my family and friends when I haven't even asked their opinion. Last month a friend had her daughter and called her Lexi Lee. She obviously loved the name, was beaming with pride at her baby, I didn't want to tell her what I really thought (not that she was asking my opinion) so I said "very nice!". It's not so much hypocritical in my opinion, rather the nice form of lying that does no one any harm!

Well - it's about having empathy for other people and caring enough not to be rude, isn't it?

The fact is your friend, whether you like what's she called her child or not, has picked what she thinks is the nicest name. I think it's just mean to be rude about it. It's not hypocritical to say it's lovely, she's your friend and you care about hurting her feelings. I have done, and will continue to do, the same. Because, like you say it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - no one picks a name they hate for a child they love.

lol at somebody with a child called Draylon laughing at anybody else's choice. That's a flammable synthetic material I think.

I've never been rude about someone's choice of name for their child (I've never said anything negative), but I just can't bring myself to lie and go 'Ooh, what a lovely name' if I don't like it. I've not lost any friends because of this.

One friend does know her choices aren't to my taste, as she was after genuine feedback when she was expecting, and going through the babyname book with me and I'd mostly just say nice/ok/not my taste etc - but that's all it is - they aren't MY taste - but they are hers, and that's great (and she ended up going with ones in my 'aren't my taste' camp).

She doesn't know the names I have lined up for my future offspring, though she knows the kind of names I like, and I know they aren't to her taste either. I do not expect her to say 'Wow - what a gorgeous name' when this baby arrives and we announce their name!

I've seen a couple of our chosen names on here or other babynaming sites getting slated - seriously doesn't bother me.
My own name appeared very frequently on the thread here a few weeks ago about Girls Names You Dislike - I really wasn't bothered. My mum loves my name, I do too, you can't please all the people all of the time.

Please, please ignore them.

When I announced DS2 name (after he was born) I got some awful reactions from both the in-laws and my own mother. Stupidly I let them get to me, was it the hormones?? I just don´t know but God do I regret it now. I should have told them where to go. Too late to change the name now as DS2 has just turned one

bebespain - must be the hormones with me, usually I wouldn't care, somehow seem to now!

When DS1 was born people were 'oh lovely' 'nice' etc. When DS2 was born we just looked at each other and thought - so this is what it is like when people really like the name!'
Its only lately that some have said that they didnt like DS1 name initially but now he is 4 and has totally made it his own - they all love it!
Go with your choice and they will all get over it. Your son will make it his own

tell them to fuck the fuck off.......

Seriously, what the hell is it with people being rude about something so sacrosanct? I've always believed that: 1) You do not diss the bride's choice of wedding arrangements; 2) You do not say something negative about someone's child, EVER. Not their name, not their looks, nothing! Especially babies! And especially not to pregnant ladies or mums still awash with hormones who are liable to weep during TV ads for charity appeals. I always thought it Just Was Not Done! Everyone who matters will surely come around to your way of thinking when they are used to it and he has grown into it. And how can they not like Teddy anyway?! It's a lovely, cuddlesome name...

We had a negative reaction (mainly from MiL) to our DS1's name because we stupidly told people the name before he was born. Like you, we'd assumed no-one would ever be rude enough to openly criticise our name choice.

This time round with DC2, we're not telling a ruddy soul until the child is born and named!

Mind you, from lots of the posts I've read on here, it doesn't seem that unusual for people (mainly MiLs!) to comment on the name even after the child is born - rude and insensitive beyond belief!

If that happens to us then I plan to say 'How rude!' and leave it at that!

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We haev 4 names picked out. 2 traditional, 1 a little more modern and one a bit off the scale but we are going ahead with them. They all have a special meaning to me and OH. Apart from Im banned from using one name as OH knew someone with that name who was a total tosser. Pity cause I really wanted that name.

Teddy is lovely and if I am lucky enough to A) get pregnant and B) have a boy he too shall be christened Edward with Ted/ Teddy as an nn. My Dad is Edward but known as Ted so will always be my first choice.
My dd is named Sadie which seems to divide opinion...I either get absolute approval, ie. what a cool name etc etc or 'oh' and swift moving on.
I couldn't care less what people think to be honest :D

I like Sadie. Its a form of Sarah and one of my great aunts names.

why thank you LilQueenie it is a GOOD name indeed

No-one liked dd1's name but immediate family, when I told my best friend at the time/ex boyf, his immediate reply was "why would you do that to a child?" I delt with because I love the name and it has meaning to me. which is all that mattered at the time. Luckily she loves her naem and loves the fact that she is only the person in our whole town with that name.

I never thought anyone would be so rude to say something nasty about your choice of name.

My DD1 has an unusual name but everyone loves it and she totally suits it.

With this pregnancy as soon as we knew it was another girl I knew exactly what her name would be and helped that DH loves it too. Didn't want to let on till after birth but let slip to DD1 that we had picked name and she got all upset that we wouldn't tell her. So we did and she told my mum who said to me "You are not seriously calling this baby that, well If any one asks me I am saying her name is......" WTF

My own mother i couldn't believe how rude she was!! Made me doubt the name for a couple of days but then I thought fuck it if I change name I will still think about it for rest of her life. Named her at 20wks she totally suits it and could'nt imagine her being called anything else.

Both my daughters names are suitable for boy or girl just different spelling, I am not into very girly names and like to know that they will be an only name when they start school as I was. IYKWIM

I don't know why people get so sensitive about it. We didn't tell anyone in advance, only after they had the name. I don't mind if they don't like it.I would never ask opinions on here-you can't please all the people so there is no point in trying.