respecting grandparents names

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Hi everyone, I have been thinking about baby names since before I knew I was pregant. We had pretty much settled on Isla Lily as we know we are having a girl and I always said that if we had a girl I would give her a middle name after my grandmother who died. My problem now is I have just lost my grandfather last week and feel i should put his name in too ( Robert). Im not sure on Bobbie and also my cousin gave her dd the middle name lilli. Any thoughts?

Could you use Robyn instead of Bobbie or Roberta? I think it sounds softer and has less of the 'Nigella' element to it.

Surname was Fryer, so I think thats a no-no! I think Roberta sounds quite old and when you put Isla Lily Bobbi together, it sounds like "I love boobies" well it does when my Scottish husband says it!

My cousin named her 2nd dd Robyn, typical eh!

not sure what his mothers name was and I dont want to let on im thinking about naming her after him incase we dont, he didn't have a middle name.

never thought about that, its an idea, dont know what this cousin would think about copying her names, even tho Robyn means more to me, it was just a name she liked.

Rowena is similar and has some of the same meaning (the Ro part alludes to 'fame')... maybe a long shot?

Not sure on Rowena, but you's have given me lots to think about, thanks guys.

How about Isla Lily and a name that means the same as Robert?

Save one of the names for your next baby?

So you're having a girl but you feel you should honour your grandfather? With all due respect, that's nuts. Don't beat yourself up about it, you are having a girl, he was a boy. Leave it for next time, you're creating problems for yourself.

Agree with Rockbird completely

I agree with rockbird and plumbum. honouring a woman with a girl makes sense but not a man. next time you might have a boy and all will be made easy. take the weight off your shoulders and stop trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. dont worry re cousin having the same Lily middle name- both for the same reason i am assuming so it ties it al in nicely. Isla is a beautiful name btw

Yep, totally what Rockbird says. I don't think anyone would expect you to name a girl after a recently deceased grandfather, and as for calling her a girl's name that only has the same first syllable in common with his name (Robyn, Rowena, etc) - well, seriously, you might as well not bother, for all the connection it'll have.

Wait until you have a boy and can do it properly - problem solved.

I think so too -- Robert is a tough one for a girl, but it's lovely for a boy.

Thanks guys, I understand what your saying and I probly am putting too much on myself. This will certainly be my last baby as I already have a 4yr old son and both my pregancies have been horrific.

I'm sorry for your recent loss. Could I ask if the grandmother you are referring to was your grandfather's wife (as opposed to your Mum's mum and Dad's dad, IYSWIM)? Because one way of honouring your grandfather's memory may well be to name your daughter after the woman he chose to spend his life with - his wife. I always felt that I wanted to remember my Grandad in my children's name - the one grandparent I have who died when I was a teenager - I was very close to him and of all my grandparents, he was the one who never met my children. As we had a DD first, we named her after his wife - a variant of her name so that even though she is still very much alive, the two names are never confused. But it meant a lot to me and it means a lot to Gran and to my mum, as well, as they know why we chose it.

Bobbalina?

The grandmother was my fathers mum and my recently passed away grandfather was my mums dad. His wife my only grandparent left is called Vera...don't think there is much I can do with that?!lol

Is there a gaelic version of Robert? What was Robert the Bruce called? (My ds has Robert as a third name, every boy in my family has Robert shoved in if possible. I like Isla).

I like Roberta (thinking Roberta Flack maybe). And it's quite unusual these days. Bobbie or Robbie for a NN, maybe?

I knew a girl at school who had been named in honour of a dead male relative. So she had to go through life explaining why she had the middle name Derek.

I dont mind Roberta but my husband doesn't like it at all.