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Did you know it was 'the one'

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CakeandRoses · 28/04/2010 10:33

With DC1, I had a real certainty about the boys name from quite early on in pregnancy, whereas we really weren't sure about any girls names. Thankfully, he did turn out to be a boy and his name is perfect for him.

Now with DC2 on the way, we're really struggling with girls name again. We feel that the boys name we've picked is perfect but just can't get the same certainty about any girls names.

Got me wondering:

Did you know the name you picked was the 'one' or was it a case of finding a name that you both could compromise on (or even that one of you loved and the other could put up with)?

Did you find it easier to shortlist names for the sex you ending up having, iyswim. e.g. We found it easy to choose DS1's name, was it because subconciously we knew he was a boy? If so, maybe this means we're having another boy!

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booyhoo · 28/04/2010 10:34

ds1 yes, ds2 no.

YesYouMust · 28/04/2010 10:34

DS1 - was known as x right up until he was born and didn't look like one.

DD was always going to be y

Amapoleon · 28/04/2010 10:39

With dd [ our first child] we didn't have a name, until a day or two after she was born. When dh said it we both knew it was the one.

With ds [even though we didn't know he was a boy] we had picked his name out very early on , I didn't have any girls names lined up, so it was lucky really.

5DollarShake · 28/04/2010 10:51

We'd decided on both names before I was even pregnant (while trying) - they are both family names (DS1 is here and DD1 is on her way ).

ShinyAndNew · 28/04/2010 10:53

Dd1 yes. She is named after my favourite uncle and my Dad.

Dd2, no. Noone of us could agree on a name so we let dd1 choose. Fortunately we managed to talk her out of calling her baby sister Sophie Bunny The Second in favour of something more sensible.

diddl · 28/04/2010 11:23

Yes both times-although fortunately we had one of each as we only ever found more than one of each name that we both loved!

LaDiDaDi · 28/04/2010 11:30

When pregnant each time I remember thinking that dd would have a name beginning with L and then with ds that he would have a name beginnning with S. A bit bizarre I know!

For ds's name although I felt at first that his first name was a compromise as soon as we said the full name (we had both wanted the same middle name for him)I knew it was "the one" iyswim. For dd although I liked her name I feel a bit of regret at it tbh.

GladioliBuckets · 28/04/2010 11:32

DD yes we both did.
DS1 no but DH felt more strongly about it so I compromised.
DS2 yes, was the only one we could agree on. Would be stuck if we ever had another boy! Had quite a few girls' names we both liked.

CakeandRoses · 28/04/2010 11:34

LaDiDaDi: That's a shame that you feel a bit regretful with your DD's name. I guess that's what I'm a little worried about with our DC2 now - that we'll compromised on a name we both like but then regret it because we don't LOVE it.

Were the initials L and S though?

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LaDiDaDi · 28/04/2010 11:45

Yes, they were!

phdlife · 28/04/2010 12:06

we thought of a girl's name about 5yrs before even thinking about ttc.

come week 37 of 1st pg, we're still desperately struggling for a boy's name. Cue dh standing in front of bookshelf yelling out random authors' names, and convos like, "Shackleton?" "Rifle?" "Jupiter?" "Chair?"

Then dh finds a name online and we both go, BINGO! (That wasn't the name, btw.) That's it, we thought. The next day dh found out it was a foreign version of his own name so then we really knew.

It was a boy, much to our astonishment, and he totally belongs to that name.

2nd pg, well, we still have our girl's name in hand, but damn, finding a boy's name this time round is hard. From about 35 weeks we are putting ds to bed then hitting the web, searching for another boy's name from the same foreign language (Finnish, since you ask), failing, searching, drawing up lists, crossing every name off each other's lists, searching some more, etc. As I'm doing this one night a girl's name leaps out at me and I scrawl it down with my middle name, ring it, there in between all the boys. Mention it to dh. It's alright, he says. Then we go back to arguing about boy's names. It is desperate because 100% of the babies we've ever had were boys, so clearly this one is going to be a boy as well, right? [pregnancy 'logic' face]

In the end we never did find another boy's name. Astonishingly, dd was, well, a dd. In the birth suite, dh said I could tell them her name, and that found-in-passing name just tripped off my tongue. A week later, I was in doubt. Bad doubt. I thought - well, a lot of loopy supernatural mumbo-jumbo that I'd prefer to gloss over, actually - enough that when dd was 7 weeks old we tried calling her by our original choice for a while. But it's wrong. She just is the name that leapt out at me. A year later, the other name, much as we still like it, is unthinkable.

So yes, bizarrely, we knew.

(sorry to hog your thread, btw.)

CakeandRoses · 28/04/2010 12:19

phdlife - no apols needed for hogging (not that you were), this was exactly the type of thing I was wondering if others went thru!

If what happened to you is anything to go by then either we're due another boy (and like you, my preg logic is saying it must be a boy, as obv that's all I make) or a girl's name will jump out at us in time and be the right one. Here's hoping...

But Bingo... now that would have been a good name...

P.S. you speak (write) spookily very much like a friend of mine (but I know you're not her as she only has 1 DC)

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annmar · 28/04/2010 12:43

DD1 we had 2 names we liked, I preferred one DH preferred the other. When she appeared, DH looked at me and I said the name that was his preferred name. It felt right. I can't understand how I ever liked the other name now.

DD2 we had 1 name, she appeared, the name was exactly right.

At no point during either pregnancy did we find a boys name we liked. We were still discussing boys names on the way to the hospital. Good job we had girls.

runnyhabbit · 28/04/2010 12:48

With ds1, we had it down to 2 boys names, and 2 girls.

He was born at 10.56pm, (after a long labour) so we didn't even talk about the name. Through the night, I'd decided which name was him (iyswim) and when dh came into see us, he'd decided on the same name too

With ds2, my mum suggested the name quite early on (didn't know if boy or girl) and we stuck to it. Had about 4 lined up for a girl though

And they both suit their names

happystarr · 28/04/2010 14:50

with dd1, all through the pregnancy i'd "known" that she was going to be called Alannah... we both loved the name, it went well with our surname, etc etc

Nine months later, my daughter is handed to me for the first time, and as I stared down in to her eyes, I just knew that her name was Charlotte! I'd seen the name a few weeks before, but hadn't given it a second thought until I saw my baby.

So with DD2, we discussed a few names but didnt make a final desicion until we met our new baby.

I think it makes it more personal to your child if you chose it after seeing them. hope this helps.

kailie · 30/04/2010 14:47

First DD due in July - saw her name and knew straightaway that I wanted to call her it....luckily DP loved it too.

( though maybe he went along with it so he could have his choice of middle name which is slightly obscure....?! anyway - can't wait to see MIL's face when she hears it !!)

heading4home · 30/04/2010 14:57

I had a girl's name in mind for years before I conceived DD, possibly even before I met DH actually. It is a first name and middle name and I just knew it was what I wanted. When pregnant with DD I just couldn't come up with a boy's name, so luckily she was a girl. And the name I had in mind for years suits her EXACTLY. I love it. I really feel that she chose it for herself [weird hippy emoticon]

Now I'm pregnant again, and I'm finding it really strange not having a name in mind already.

SqueezyB · 30/04/2010 15:10

With DD I knew exactly what she would be called and thankfully she turned out to be a she!

This time round we have a boys name sorted and about 5 strong contenders for a girls name - all of which I like but don't LOVE. I'm hoping that if it's a girl the name will jump out at us! Even for a boy I have a few back up names in mind in case he doesn't suit the name we've picked. With DD there was just never any doubt, she WAS her name right from the start of the pregnancy!

Hmm, maybe it means I'm having a boy going by your theory, I'm certainly getting boy vibes at the moment...

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