The issue is:
My surname is deeply unusual - if you were to google it I would come near the top of the first page - it is also one of those names that is always spelt wrong (even when you spell it for people), and that people totally struggle to pronounce (even when told) - would rather not burden child with this.
My partners name is very common - think "Smith"
If we use Smith as a surname, I will constantly be called Mrs Smith (as parent of child Smith)
I have read lots of stories about mothers being questioned at immigration as their surname is different to their child's surname.
I'm sort of attached to my surname and sort of don't want the line to die out .
What would be the best way to incorporate both of our surnames in such a way that usually (e.g. school register, bank cards) my child will be known as Child Smith, but my name is in there somewhere.
Middle name? (it doesn't sound like a forename at all)
Non-hyphenated double barreled surname eg Smith Myname ( I read somewhere that the convention with this would be to drop the second name except on formal stuff?)