Parents input on choosing your baby name?

[KatiePul]

My husband and I have chosen quite an unusual name for a boy much to my mothers disgust. She is constantly mentioning it saying how much she dislikes it and makes very negative and hurtful comments about it, such as he will be bullied and what will other people think, something which I don't care about and as for bullying, if that does occur we will deal with it appropriately.
She is really starting to put doubts in my mind about it for the simple reason that I don't want her to look negatively upon her grandson.
Should I stick to the name I love so much and tell her she will just have to get used to it or allow her to have some input? Help, I don't want to upset her.

NO ONE liked dd's name before she was born... EVERYONE now loves it and says it is so 'her (it is different and i have had numerous people wanting to 'copy' it now!)

name your child whatever you want fgs there are bigger worries in the world

my mum didnt like my choice of name for ds but did exp's ds has neither and mum thinks i should have called ds the longer version of his name. Which i dont particularly like and would only use if telling him off. I respect her opinion. However if i were to have another son i would ask her and my dads thoughts on a name i want to use. If they said no i would accept that. I know it would be my child etc but would want their agreement and blessing to use it

KatiePul Congratulations on the pregnancy. Normally, I would always say that it is up to the parents to choose the name and in this case too I agree it is your choice. I think, personally, that your mother will come around in time.

However, just as an aside, I think that the name ?Fox? could prove problematic for your little one. Certainly, as a first name it might make some things harder, like introducing himself at school or later in life. Would you consider it as a middle name? I only say this because I think kids can have a tough enough time at school without an unusual name.

This is just my personal opinion, I know not everyone will agree with me.

To me ?Fox? sounds cool, so if your child is confident and full of life, he may well ?get away with? an unusual name. But if he is quieter or shyer he may not like standing out. You could always call him ?Fox? whatever is on his birth certificate.

Fox has a few connotations, some positive and some not so.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope that it will be a really joyful time for you and not marred by any arguments or fighting about names.

If you had started a thread saying you want to call your baby Fox, you'd be slated. So in that sense, your Mum is right.

If you really must call your child Fox (and how you will deal with playground teasing when you're not even there to deflect it, I don't know), then do so.

Let it be a lesson not to divulge potential names before the birth - just declare it when the baby has arrived (I realise this is completely redundant advice, but for next time ).

We discussed name ideas with family when I was pregnant with DS1. We did not make the same mistake the second time around.

I am pregnant with DD1 and we're naming her after both our mothers - and we're still not telling our parents, even though they'll clearly be delighted.

Everyone now knows we're having a girl - we need to keep something a surprise.

With DC3 we asked my MIL and FIL for input, but their suggestions were not even close to something we would have considered. FIL suggested this long double barrelled name (and we already have a very long surname) and MIL suggested Leonie which was not to our taste - very 70's Australia.

Your mum will love your grandson no matter what you name him and she will soon forget that she ever had issues with the chosen name. My PIL had to get used to 'Flavia' (my neice) and did so very gracefully once they got to know her .

When I told my mother over the phone what we were planning to name DD (a traditional, in no way out-there flower name), there was a silence and then, "oh, God."

"What?" I said, knowing full well what.

Finally she burst out with, "it sounds like a WEED."

I pointed out that anything that florists charge money for can't really be considered a weed. She was not persuaded. I chose a middle name I knew she'd love, and she announced her intention to call DD by the middle name and not the flowery first name. She has never actually done so and actually likes the name now that DD is a real person inhabiting it.

Go with Fox. It is very cool (I used to have a massive crush on Fox Mulder from the X-Files) and your mum will not even think about it any more once your DS arrives and just IS Fox.