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RAGE- inducing baby names

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PoppyC · 28/03/2010 16:13

just looking through and found that some more unusual names can generate a lot of hateful posts. Personally I think most anything besides obvious clangers like P. Neece can go & it's a lovely way to express creativity.

So why do some people post just downright rude messages? It's actually very rude & some posters don't seem to realise that it's all a matter of opinion anyway, just because you personally dont like a name, it doesn't mean it's a bad name! YOU don't have to name your kids it!

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piscesmoon · 28/03/2010 19:24

Why ask if you don't want the truth? I wouldn't ask in the first place.
In RL I say something diplomatic but these people ask! I am convinced that some are trolls and come up with outlandish names just to see if someone agrees it is nice e.g. Apricot has to be a joke-surely?!
I think that if you can save some poor child being called Ivy, Hilda or Ethel you are doing them a big favour.

chegirlWILLbeserene · 28/03/2010 21:40

I dont agree that the reaction you get on Mumsnet is indicative of the one you will get in RL at all!

There are tons of Baileys, Morgans, Demis and Kaydons round here. People love those names.

On Mumsnet you so much as mention any of them and the place virtually explodes

I dont ever comment on 'what do you think of this name' threads (well very rarely). And I wouldnt dream of asking anyone their opinion of a name I had choosen.

I dont understand why people do it. But if they DO they will get an honest reaction on MNs and they need to deal with it really.

Bucharest · 29/03/2010 07:21

Chegirl is right- people IRL will lie. On MN they tend not to!

piscesmoon · 29/03/2010 08:04

I lie IRL-if someone is set on a name it would be rude to tell them it is dire and their DC will be the playground joke. I manage some bland comment. If they ask on here I assume that they want to know the truth otherwise it is pointless.

MamaLazarou · 29/03/2010 08:57

I think we are honest, rather than rude. People come on here wanting opinions, and we give them. personally, I don't start threads asking for people's opinions of my chosen names, because I don't need the approval, but some people do, and that's fine.

I do hate it when people just dismiss a name as 'chav'. It's an ugly, snobbish word, and a lazy description.

dizzydixies · 29/03/2010 10:20

well said MamaLazarou - I hate that word too

5DollarShake · 29/03/2010 11:11

If you can't stand the heat...

People are much more forthright on here than they are in real life. In real life, people will smile diplomatically at a name and then laugh in private. At least this way, you're getting an idea of exactly how much people will laugh in private and whether it's really worth putting your child through that. A community service, if you will.

This forum is really just used for people considering names - not for actual names chosen and bestowed.

I dunno - the original post sort of reminds me of those people who go into, for example, celebrity gossip forums and then take massive umbrage at the gossip and bitching that goes on in them. It does what it says on the tin, and if if offends your delicate sensibilities, then just stay away!

Fliight · 29/03/2010 11:20

i have had some comments about my choices, but tbh I have only posted them after the fact, and it was having decided on names I loved, so it was cool if people went 'that's terrible!' It just made me smile.

As long as the requisite one person agrees with you you're Ok. If you're nOT ok with the name after some derision, don't use it.

It's a good test of how much you like it.

chegirlWILLbeserene · 29/03/2010 11:24

I agree about the chav thing too.

Massively over used on MNs.

Reminds me of the whole 'none U' thing.

Horrible shorthand for laughing down your sleeve at those dreadful working classes.

StrictlyKatty · 29/03/2010 17:18

If you don't want to know what people think....

Bessie123 · 29/03/2010 17:20

I don't care if you think it's not nice to slag off names people are suggesting. Why post on here if you don't want opinions. Imo, anyone with a dd younger than 7 called Isobel deserves a proper slagging, bring it on.

dizzydixies · 29/03/2010 20:35

I could see how Isobel would induce rage

Fliight · 30/03/2010 10:21

I sadly can see how it could...when every second person who mentions a new baby tells you it is called that, it does begin to get a bit scary. Prob just where we live.

It's a lovely name and of course the babies are all beautiful. Just so many of them!

dizzydixies · 30/03/2010 19:54

we have an Isabella who is 7 and she was named after a beloved Great Aunt who was named after an aunt of hers etc etc

it is a timeless classic and popular for a reason - I don't understand the extreme reactions it generates, esp when I only know of one other up here and not the hundreds that everyone keep talking of. I stand by it for the reasons we chose it and we still love it

the name we picked for DD2 was less popular in the charts and has sped up them and is now considered common/chav - you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't!!!

LetThereBeRock · 30/03/2010 19:59

What's wrong with Isobel/Isabella?

Fliight · 30/03/2010 20:38

Nothing, nothing, it's gorgeous - but it's just uber common round here, and by that I don't mean 'chav' common but seriously ubiquitous.

It got to the point where you would be talking to an acquaintance in the street and they would say 'Oh my daughter just had her first baby!' and you'd say 'Oh what's it called?' and you would KNOW. Which is such a shame, really, because it was on my favourite girls name list since I was about 9, right through till about 29!

no offence, honestly.

Fliight · 30/03/2010 20:41

Plus it's only that popular because it is so attractive. It is a pain when a name becomes very popular, to the point of putting people off using it...if that makes any kind of sense at all!

MrsvWoolf · 30/03/2010 20:43

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dizzydixies · 30/03/2010 20:51

Fliight - move up here, honestly it isn't popular at all

Bessie123 · 31/03/2010 09:32

Yes, that was my point about Isobel - the popularity. It is a very pretty name but for any child under the age of about 7 who is called Isobel I think it's a shame that her parents couldn't be bothered to think of a slightly more original name.

Mind you, I gave dd my great grandmother's name, which had been pretty rare over the last 80 years or so but now every other girl seems to have it.

Fliight · 31/03/2010 09:36

I don't think it's fair to say people couldn't be bothered. Like with your dd's name, you didn't know it would be so popular.

But I think once a name reaches saturation and if you are aware of this, it's a bit odd to use it knowing her class will have 6 or 7 other children with the same name in it.

i don't expect most people do realise this though or they wouldn't do it.

Fliight · 31/03/2010 09:37

I was lucky with ds1's name, though I expect it will have a resurgence in the next few years, but he is nearly 7 now and the only one in his school...we know another little one who is about 3.

Ds2 is the only one we know of or have heard of, but even I'm not always sure i like his name it's a bit unusual.

dizzydixies · 31/03/2010 10:01

I certainly couldn't care less if people felt I wasn't original with my choices - all of my girls have names that mean something through their choice and not because of a desperation to be seen to be different from the pack

Fliight · 31/03/2010 10:08

which is definitely the way to go, Dizzy. I hope you weren't offended by my comments, I would never think badly of someone for using a popular name.

dizzydixies · 31/03/2010 10:10

no, not at all! as I've said it isn't popular up here at all but then again, according to the Government the Scots are always behind the 'trend setters' down south

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