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Baby names

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HELP - what would you do???

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clpsmum · 01/03/2010 07:40

We have just found out we are expecting our 3rd baby and have decided on a girls name the toruble is i know from discussions in my previous two pregnancies that my mum and mother in law both hate the name! what would you do would you change the name or stick to your guns? very early days for us so plenty of time to change our minds anyway just wanted everyone elses opinion

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DuelingFanjo · 01/03/2010 08:00

what's the name?

overmydeadbody · 01/03/2010 08:05

Just call the baby whatever you want.

MummyTumble · 01/03/2010 08:10

Keep it - if you love it ad its the name then they'll have to get used to it.

My mum is very vocal about names she likes or dislikes and it drives me made. She had her chance when she named me - my turn now!

She didn't like DS name and doesn't like the boy or girl name we have for this baby...but me and DH love them (as does DD )...it's not like they're offencive or upsetting in anyway.

You can't please all of the people all of the time.....

Buda · 01/03/2010 08:12

If you both love the name then I would just keep quiet until baby is born and then tell them the name.

smileypigface · 01/03/2010 10:14

Definitely go with what YOU like - I made the mistake of announcing my favourite girl name when I was expecting my eldest (which did turn out to be a girl) - my mum repeated it in a silly, mocking voice and pulled a constipated face .. that did it for me ... Amber was the name I liked and Amber was the name I gave her!!!!

Like someone else said, your mum had her chance when she named you - mine gave me a common as muck name (for my generation) and spelt it awkwardly - so I've spent a lifetime having to spell it out every time I say it!

remaincalm · 01/03/2010 10:41

Go for the name you love. Don't worry if your family don't like it.
Family and close friends always seem to have an opinion on names so best not to talk about it with them.
When the baby arrives, they will be so happy to see the baby that they won't worry about the name.

BellasYummyMummy · 01/03/2010 13:02

i've stopped telling my parents/in laws our name list as everytime we do someone makes a face and i end up going off the name!
so we're keeping our names a surprise, despite my mum begging to know! she'll find out in a few days anyway...! Plus once you've named them, the name always sounds better if that makes sense once it has a face to it so your parents are more likely to like it.

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clpsmum · 01/03/2010 13:22

Thank everyone you have made me feel so much better and you are right i think we will stick to it and just not tell them until baby arrives and as i have two boys anyway the chances are it will be another boy so situation wont even arise lol!

Smiley - my mum is the same gave me a very common name and a very awkward spelling of it which i have to constantly spell out to people and then they look at me like i am mad!!!

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GladioliBuckets · 01/03/2010 14:10

My mum is downright rude for months until a baby is officially named then gives in and accepts it. For #3 we considered one girls' name specifically to annoy her! He was a he in the end and she made no secret of her disgust but by baby#3 one is a little more thickskinned and stubborn.

I would keep it top secret til the day if I were you, maybe throw out a few red herrings.

yellowcircle · 01/03/2010 14:17

On the assumption that the name is not something that would embarass a child/be awkward to spell etc, then you should just call your baby what you like. Why do they not like it - does it have bad connotations for them?

mathanxiety · 01/03/2010 14:56

Just go ahead and name your baby whatever you want. Don't tell them beforehand, though. They'll get used to it.

FatSeal · 01/03/2010 21:13

I agree with the "keep it quiet, then present a fait accompli"- the new baby will stop them moaning about the name.

We have been mercilessly pumped for information this time round but have been very wily and let them chew over a list of our second-choice names, so that they won't know we have basically chosen our favourite name (barring her popping out and not suiting it for some reason).

Ellokitty · 01/03/2010 22:08

I think that depends on their reasons for not liking the name.

If it is a personal thing, related to someone they know etc, I would be tempted to ignore them and go with the name I like.

But, if they have a valid reason for not liking the name (such as it doesn't go with your surname), then I would think again. Sometimes other people can think of things that you don't about names.

dizzydixies · 01/03/2010 22:17

my mother hated all the names we choose citing reasons and alternatives for the first two DDs , she had passed away just before DD3 was born but I could have guessed her reaction

choose your name, keep it to yourself until baby is born and then common decency and manners will hopefully prevent them voicing unwanted opinions - either that or tell DH to warn them not to upset you

mathanxiety · 02/03/2010 05:52

I mentioned one of the names I had been considering for DD3 to her one day. She loved it and still moans at me from time to time about not calling her 'Babyname'. The reason was mum would have gone ballistic . But it would have been perfect for DD3, and the nn I had in mind would have been fab too. I love the name she has, don't get me wrong, but the other one would have been absolutely perfect for her.

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