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Baby name regret - have clenched stomach and can't bear it

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NotAnOnlyChild · 06/11/2009 20:37

DD1 (DC2) is 5 weeks old. We hadn't decided her name before she was born, although had been bandying about Rosie and some others. After she was born we took a few days to make our minds up. I am terrible at making decisions - it takes me forever to pick curtains and the like but, that's just curtains.
We didn't call her Rosie as couldnt' think of a long official version that we liked. And I was possibly worried about Rosise sounding maybe too twee. Anyway, finally named her Evlyn Rose, which I love as an official name. Then I went off and told all my family 'Evlyn' and dh told all his family and friends 'Evie'. I do agree with him that we had talked about Evie but it seems that I hadn't got round to saying that I preferred Evlyn. When someone says 'Evie' I don't like it, not that I don't like the name, I do, it's just it seems too over familiar (after all she's just a tiny baby), more something that's a pet name you'd give someone you knew really well. Then to make things worse, my Dad started calling her Rosie as a nickname and now I think I prefer it. We have got to refer to her as one name I think or it's just going to get ridiculous.
I am sick of myself and my inability to make a decision!
Does anyone have an opinion on the names, or how I can decide??
Thanks

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boodleboot · 07/11/2009 10:57

my kids have been known by a million NN so far so i wouldn't worry too much....

i think its just new baby hormones.....Evie is gorge, Rosie is lovely, evlyn is nice....she'll settle in to one name or she will have lots of names she responds too....DS gets called, Hobbs, Boodle, Bodd, Bobbins, noodle mcdoodle, spoodle pants....

He is called James really tho.......i think hope he knows that.....

PuppyMonkey · 07/11/2009 10:59

My sis called her dd Philippa, it is on birth certificate and everything. But within a few weeks, she and her dh realised they hated it (and her other kids called the baby Flipper ) so she just randomly changed the name to Emily (wasn't even her dd's middle name) and was never happier.

Evie is very nice, and so what if it is over familiar? Rosie is nice too. It will all sort itself out within a few weeks when you find out what you "naturally" call your dd, the name you picture in your mind when you think of her... that will be the name.

discountmum · 07/11/2009 19:59

I like Evie and Rosie. Not sure about the spelling Evlyn though. Rosie does go better with Ethan somehow.

muminthemiddle · 08/11/2009 00:12

Evlyn Rose is a lovely name.

I would stick with this.

perhaps as she grows you might call her Evie or even Rosie as a nn.

For what it's worth we gave our dd a traditional name and middle name, thinking at the time that we might shorten it to a nn. Unfortunately I made the mistake of telling my best friend the nn we liked and she always referred to dd by this nn. However both myself and dh soon grew to dislike the nn as it didn't seam to fit.
Anyway best friend kept calling her by the nn and even wrote it on cards etc. Eventually my dd asked why she did this as no-one else ever did and it was not her name so I asked my friend not to do it and told her that we didn't ever call her by nn.
All is now well and I am so glad that I chose the longer version of her name and would advise you to do the same and politely tell everone that Rosie/Evie doesn't suit your dd and from now on can they please call her by her proper name of Evlyn Rose.

teamcullen · 08/11/2009 00:24

When I was born My dad wanted me to be called j and my mum wanted f. They tossed a coin and my dad won so I got J F.

When I came home from hospital my DB being a total mummys boy refused to call me J and stated he was calling me F.
So I have always been called F.

teamcullen · 08/11/2009 00:28

BY the way
DD, Hannah, called Boo
DS1, James, called James, Jay, JJ
DS2, Nathan, called Spud

nappyaddict · 08/11/2009 01:50

If you don't like Evie just tell people you want her to be called Evelyn. I must say I do prefer Evelyn to Rosie.

nappyaddict · 08/11/2009 01:51

I prefer the shortening Eva to Evie. Would that work?

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 08/11/2009 19:04

LOVE Evelyn- spelt Evelyn. Evie for short is just beautiful and she'll like it. Evelyn Rose is very elegant and nice. If worst came to worst you could call her Rosie as a nickname because her middle name is Rose but I think Evelyn Rose is much nicer than Rosie.

Rosie sounds like a tin of sweets.

Chill.

teameric · 08/11/2009 19:10

Evelyn Rose is lovely, but then my DD is Evie Rose so I'm a bit biased

blowninonabreeze · 08/11/2009 19:10

I know exactly what you mean about over familiar, DD2 is Elena and we intended for her to be a Nell, but shortening her name when she was a timy baby seemed wrong, even to me. She never grew into a Nell (alhough now at 19 months we do call her Boo)

In laws called her Ellie from birth which used to grate so so so so so much. But on the advise of mumsnet I ignored and it seems they got the message as she's never called Ellie now.

If you stick to your guns about what you call her, others will take their lead from you.

FWIW I prefer Evelyn to Rosie

whichwitchisthis · 08/11/2009 19:19

I love both names ds would have been Rose if he wasn't a he iykwim

are you sure it's not because she's still sooo new? I know this may make no sense but after I had mine all three, it felt odd to call them by their names I don't know why?!???.....but maybe that's just me

ten10 · 08/11/2009 19:25

Have you thought about Rosalyn as an alternative?

Xavielli · 08/11/2009 22:06

I wanted my DD to be Evelyn. Couldn't get her Dad to agree to it however so she is Eliana.

You can never tell what pet names/nicknames will stick. We intended for her to be an Ellie, but all the small children in our family called her Ellie-narna. Somehow that progressed to Nellie-bananas and now she is just known as Nellie. Even her school letters come with Nellie on them as this is what she introduces herself as.

Also, I can't remember calling either of my kids their actual name until they were atleast 4 or 5 months, they we just baby/bundle/pickle/darling/sweetheart/pinky. No names suit babies, you've just gotta let them grow into them.

Hulababy · 08/11/2009 22:19

I don't see why Evie would be seen as over familiar but Rosie wouldn't be.

FWIW I love the sound of Evie, and I do prefer it to Rosie personally.

You have until she is 12 months old to make any official changes to her name, once registered. So, don't rush into any changes - just see how it goes.

Wonderstuff · 08/11/2009 22:28

Took me ages to get used to dd's name, I called her baby girl for about 4 months. I like it now, it just didn't seem to fit when she was very tiny. I do prefer her middle name. Sorry not a lot of help am I.

I think it is common to take a while to get used to names, I wouldn't worry too much now. It is a lovely name.

nooka · 08/11/2009 22:36

So you love her full name. That's great. Your family are all calling her variations of that name. That's fine too. I'm not totally sure what is causing you such grief? Tiny babies are often called diminutives because people think that "grown up" names are too, well, grown up. Your dd is not going to mind or even notice at this point, and I suspect that in a few months one or two of the names will really settle for you - or you may find she acquires a totally different nickname

My ds and dd both call themselves shortened versions of their name, and ds at 10 has started to tell us what he thinks we should call him (which of course we mostly ignore ). It's great to have a name with lots of choice! I think Evlyn Rose is lovely, although I too would have added another "e".

hattee · 09/11/2009 10:29

I understand how you feel as I had terrible baby name regret. I wish I had had someone like nooka to tell me not to worry - it'll work out in the end and its really not worth the sleepless nights.

Evlyn Rose doesn't know or care what you call her at the moment - I bet you call her all sorts of different things throughout the day anyway (DD was wiggly worm for a while and she knows that this isn't her name!)

Try to take time out to relax about it, and eventually one name will come out on top for you. You can change the birth certificate anytime in the first year, as long as she hasn't been baptised, so there's really no rush.

fwiw, I think they are both lovely names

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