Help! I think I might want to change DS's name...

[ilikeyoursleeves]

DS2 (4 weeks old) is called Zach and I just can't get used to it at all . We loved the name when I was PG but some folk seem to think it's a bit chavvy (hmm thanks for telling me that) and haven't said much positive about it. So I keep having niggles about it and it's getting to me. DH said he doesn't want to change it though argh!

Not sure if I'm being put off by others opinions or if I'm just not liking the name or if it doesn't suit him?

I don't know what to do!

Hi ilikeyoursleeves - are you feeling any better about this? Have you and you DH come to a decision?

Hi Daisy, thanks for asking! We (I) have decided to stick with the name Zach. I figured it was other peoples opinions swaying me and had to remind myself that I liked it lots before the birth so why should I change my mind according to what others think? Also I have come to realise that a name doesn't mean you turn out a certain way, be it 'chavvy', 'posh', or whatever, it's who you are that counts, so I am trying to discount the chavvy comment. Though I was a bit pissed off today when my dad gave me a printout of bloody Zac Efron and asked if that's why DS is called Zach! I haven't even seen High School Musical!

How are you getting on with your name Daisy? You any more sure about it?

lol at the high school musical printout I am glad you are keeping it, as like you say, you like it which is what counts. I was the same with DC1 and DC5, their names seemed to be the sort that were loved or hated (usually no comment!!) MIL especially refused to call DD it and called her 'baby' for at least 6 months!! People all get used to the name after the first few months but maybe people can pick up on our insecurities and that is why they go on at us thinking we will change it? (Maybe with someone very confident they wouldn't?) Just a thought.

I'm glad you have decided to stick with it... it's a lovely name and not chavvy at all

I'm still unsure. I need to come to a decision pretty soon. I wish we had gone for a different name to start with, but I can't change that now. My husband really likes the name we have now (that's why we went with it), but has been great and is willing to change it. So its up to me really, and at the moment I'm changing my mind on a fairly regular basis. Even I think I'm bonkers (always been pretty level headed before - maybe its all just my hormones)

Oh Daisy I feel for you - its such a hard decision - come and let us know when you decide!

I tried to have a Luca day when I called him Luca but it just felt weird - maybe you could try that?

What is the name of your DC Daisy? I had moments today when I doubted Zach's name again, I kept thinking of other names for him argh.

Ilikeyoursleeves - I don't think Zach is chavvy at ALL!

I think i worried about what other people thought of mine but now i hardly think about it at all (Although i am still obsessed with name forums and still sometimes think, ooh you could have been an Oscar!)
x

Hi ilikeyoursleeves, there is another thread at the moment here, with people in the same position - maybe it will make you feel a bit better to realise that you're not the only one in this situation?

I'm a bit reluctant to publish DS's name here in case it gives my identity away (on the off chance anyone I know stumbles across this thread)

I am beginning to feel a bit better about it though. I still think about changing it, or using his middle name (DH would prefer to not use middle name though ) - but it doesn't seem quite as important as it did. For now anyway...

Oh, I love it! Zach is one of my favourite names.

I love Zachary, and Zack. Very strong, masculine names in a tree surgeon, artic explorer kind of a way.

Don't let anyone put you off the name you have chosen, least of all your parents/PILs. They had their chance at naming babies when they had you and your DH. Now it is your turn.

I took a while to get used to DD's name, I kept calling her the German version of the name, as we were living in Germany at the time. The Scottish version of the name that we had chosen was so difficult to get used to. My MIL said that she could not get used to the Scottish version and would just call DD by her German name. BIL was great and said to her that since had given up her fab Scottish maiden name, the least she could do was learn to pronounce her DGD Scottish name correctly.

I also found it more difficult to bond with my second DC. I think that with my PFB DD I just had more time to concentrate on her. I had time to sit and look at her and just think, "WOW". With a second child, this time is not there, you are too busy trying to keep everything running smoothly.

Don't panic, don't worry. It will be ok.