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if you didn't use the name you really, really loved...

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thisisyesterday · 18/06/2009 19:49

how do you feel about it now?

we are struggling big time with naming ds3. we have a shortlist. he has been "named" about 3 times now, and then each time i've decided that it isn't "him"

the problem is I have a beloved name and dp HATES it. I can't use it, and I ought to stop thinking about it. but I can't and i'm finding it hard to choose one of the others which I do really, really like. but i don't love any of them,

so, if you had a similar situation, and couldn't use your favourite name, do you still regret it now?
how did you choose a different name?

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Pollyanna · 18/06/2009 21:31

same as Belgo for me, I couldn't use any of the names I really loved as dh wouldn't agree. We compromised on all the names. I don't mind at all now and love the names my dcs have. In fact I'm rather pleased now he vetoed a couple of the names.

missmem · 18/06/2009 21:34

There is nothing wrong about Asa. Can't remember if you said DD or DS but if you called DD Anastasia you could call her Asa as a shortened version. Haven't come up with a boys version yet!

ninedragons · 19/06/2009 12:34

I had a fit when DD was about three weeks old (and a fortnight into a lifetime with DH's No. 1 choice and my No. 3) when DH admitted that, after all, he actually quite liked the name I'd been lobbying for since the day I peed on the stick.

I'm trying to sell him on another DC and I have to admit that about 10% of my desire for a second DC is that I might get to use my Most Favoured Name this time. I am seriously considering telling him this time around that if he wants the DC to have his surname, I get to pick the first name.

minouminou · 19/06/2009 12:57

I'm a bit neither here nor there about DD's name, as I really wanted to call her Evangeline, for some reason, but DP wasn't struck, and it'd get shortened to Evie, which I find grating.
DP chose her 1st name, and I chose her middle name, as I'd been gung-ho about DS' name.
If we have another, and it's a girl, I might think about it as a middle name....it's just that "Evie" really puts me off.
Now if #3 is a boy, I'm thinking Stigan....a few months back when I tried Tostig out on you guys.......ow....my eyes are STILL smarting!!!

ninedragons · 19/06/2009 13:03

I remember your Tostig thread. I am ashamed to admit that I think Stigan also sounds like another item of Ikea furniture.

Evie is very sweet, IMHO.

minouminou · 19/06/2009 13:21

Heh heh, Ninedragons. It's quite funny, as my surname is only 1 letter away from an Ikea range, so I'd better be careful or people will be resting their hot drinks on Stigan, if he ever materialises!

becklespeckle · 19/06/2009 13:29

DH didn't like my favourite girl's name, I really wanted to call my DD Emily (after my fantastic Grandmother). For the first couple of hours after we named her I kept looking at her and wondering if we'd made a mistake but now I feel it is the perfect name for her and Emily would not have suited her at all! No regrets, I love her name We chose a different name simply by trawling through name lists until we found one we both liked, it took months!

Luckily DH loved my fave boys names!

plonker · 19/06/2009 13:47

I still prefer my dd3's (23mo) middle name and really regret not giving it her as a first name.

Dh chose her first name and whilst I think it's really really lovely (and at last I can say that and mean it!) I still prefer her middle name and secretly pray that she'll prefer it too ...

Agree that you can't name your ds something that your dh hates though

JoPie · 20/06/2009 13:47

I deperately wanted to call DS2 Jude, but DH was adamant against it (as he was with almost every name I picked, and I was with every name he picked!)
Now, even if he agreed, which he wouldn't, I couldn't use it for the current bump as we would have 3 boys all beginning with J, and that would be too themey and twee for me. So I'll never get my Jude. Or Jesse. Or Josiah. God I love J's......!!

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thisisyesterday · 20/06/2009 19:33

jopie, Jude Jesse and Josiah are all fantastic names! all have featured on my names lists for my 3 boys.

we've been giving Asa a go, and have agreed that if dp still really hates it by the end of the day then it'll go and we will use choice number 2.

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JoPie · 20/06/2009 22:30

Try telling DH that, he says they are pretentious and "wankery" We eventually settled on Jonah for DS2, which was acceptable because of a famous rugny player, apparently. I still love Jude the best though!

onebatmother · 20/06/2009 23:15

I adored Edith. Adored Nell. Have not thought of them for 3 years and 9 months now.

DD's 2nd middle name is Tallulah!

Swedes · 20/06/2009 23:27

I wanted to call DS3 Otto. DP said "Nein". So we called him something else instead. But now we all call him Boccherini.

Can you tell us what the name is that you like?

Swedes · 20/06/2009 23:28

Onebatmother - Tallulah

Swedes · 20/06/2009 23:34

I still regret not insisting on Otto.

Three names beginning with J would potentially save a fortune on Cash's name tapes.

onebatmother · 20/06/2009 23:45

Oh Swedes I loved Otto too. If dd had been ds, we would have had Oscar and Otto...

which does sound like a gay hi-energy europop duo from the 80s, it's true.

lotspot · 21/06/2009 10:09

I have too teenagers who both ended up with very common names for their age - we didnt realise at the time how common they were as we didnt know any children with these names but they both had other children with their names in their classes so i will say that at times i have felt a slight bit of regret that they both have to put up witht hat - doesnt bother DS but DD now goes by a nickname because she hated forever being known as XXXXXX P rather than just XXXXXX iyswim

I had wanted to call her a very unusual name but we decided against it in the end and i do occaisionally regret the decision and i know she too would quite like the other name but i love her name and she suits it perfectly (although i never actually call her it lol i have a specil nickname for her)

In the end i think you'll love whatever you call him as you'll associate it with your lovely son but yes at times i do have pangs of regret

lotspot · 21/06/2009 10:17

dismal spelling i do apologise!! functioning on VERY little sleep lol

NervousNutty · 21/06/2009 10:27

I regret it yes.

I wanted Dd2's name to be Eloise Olivia, but her dad was having non of it and I got to the point where I was too tired to argue and gave in. Her name is Chloe Eloise, and I do like it but still wish i'd stood my ground and had Eloise as first name.

ilovepeppapig · 21/06/2009 11:09

yes.

I wanted ds to be Tom but DH cousin had a Thomas so that was out. Still regret it.

I always wanted a dd called Lucy. all my family assumed that when she was born she was lucy. But no! again DH didn't like it at the last minute.

For my DS i had a shortlist of 4 names i could live with and DH picked a name for ds from that.

For DD, DH had a shortlist of 3 names and i picked DD from that. But yes i regret it

serin · 22/06/2009 11:10

I wanted to call DD Nancy as I absolutely love the name, DH hated it on account of the horrid neighbour he lived beside as a child.

Asked her recently if she would rather be called Nancy (she is 12) and she hates it!

spiderlight · 23/06/2009 14:25

I couldn't use either of my three absolute favourite names, all of which I loved loved loved. One sounded awful with OH's surname, one had already been 'taken' by OH's brother's son and OH just plain hated the third. I was particularly gutted about the 'taken' one because it's really personally meaningful and I'd wanted to use it for about ten years, plus OH's nephew is a brat and it's wasted on him . We ended up naming him almost by default - OH didn't come up with a single suggestion and only liked one name on my list. BUT it suited him instantly and everyone seems to love it, so no really massive regrets.

gladders · 23/06/2009 15:22

really wanted ds to be charlie for family reasons... dh refused on the grounds that it would be like naming him 'cocaine'

i did try and push it for the first few hours - but dh held firm and we ran through our list of names until one seemed to fit. i was't 100% happy with it until he was about a year old really, but now i'm fine. Actually I'm glad he's not Charlias there are millions of them round here!

for dd, i really love the name alice and spent the whole pregnancy trying to convince dh. only for him to agree to it when she was a few hours old and to find that i'd gone off it!!

burningupinspeed · 23/06/2009 15:30

I loved a name, didn't use it, 2 years on I love the name I did use far more, so no regrets.

HellHathNoFury · 23/06/2009 15:57

I REALLY wanted a name but DH said no - it was hard but then out of nowhere we found another one we both loved.

It's hard as it's DP's choice too

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