Interested to know have you told anyone in RL the name you have chosen?

[heartmoonshadow]

Hi,

My DH and I have picked the name Leo for our little boy when he is born and we have told no-one. A lot of friends got a bit huffy and moaned they know what he is and would like to know the name. We feel it is a bit rude of them to keep asking and have said it is just in case we change our minds.

I have considered saying I am going to call him Tom or Bill or something to shut them up and then just saying he did not look like a Tom/Bill when he arrived - what do you think.

Would you keep the name you have chosen to yourself?

Your friends sound a bit pestering, so might be a good idea to keep the name to yourself if they might be rude about it. I think it's lovely.

I think when you tell anyone that you know the sex of your baby, the next question will always be have you chosen any names yet, I don't I would be bothered one or the other if they said they wanted to keep it secret, i might think its it bit strange, but heyho. your baby, your choice

Oh, it's a lovely name

Thank you jumping beands we are very happy with it - I wasn't sure at first probably because it was hubby's suggestion. But now I love it and call my bump Leo all the time at home.

It is funny really my dad has said not to tell him the sex so very few people in the family know so they can't accidently let it slip so when dad comes round if I ever slip up and call him Leo we can say it is because we call the bump by the expected starsign!

Um I don't think you should tell other people what name you have decided on. They will try and put you off if they don't like it, and you will then feel undeservedly rubbish annoucing his birth and name, knowing already that people hate it.

Say you're not sure yet and will wait to see what he looks like, then say- baby born blabla we are calling him Leo. Then nobody can criticise as you have made your decision and Leo has already arrived!

Told my parents, who like it because it's normal - Michael (subject to face, obviously). I cruelly keep telling the DSDs terrible fake names in the hope they will tell their evil mother.

I agree, if you don't want to tell people, don't. Anyway, you might want to reserve the right to change your mind when you meet him. Your friends should really respect your decision.

I'm not even preg yet (ttc1) and I've told a few people the names I've picked for a) a girl or b) a boy depending on what we have.

So far some people have been very rude and turned up their noses saying they don't like those names. That annoys me a bit because it's non of their business to choose my baby names!

I don't think there's any harm in telling people your choices, but be ready for them telling you their opinions.

DH told his mum we were thinking of Henry, and she said she hated it, so now we're back to square one! We hadn't solidly decided, but it was sort of on the top of all the names we'd thrown around.

Not telling anyone anything now.

I do realise we could still use the name, but it would feel odd knowing that she'd expressed a strong dislike.

If anyone asks, I'm saying we have a shortlist but are waiting to see what he looks like (this is true). And no, they don't get to know any of the shortlisted names either, as we don't want to be swayed by other people's opinions again.

We have told family as we wanted our DDs to associate the little bump of Mummys tummy with DS when he arrives and hopefully accept him more readily. Obviously if you tell DCs then the rest of the world will know fairly soon afterwards.

heartmoonshadow, they ARE being rude to keep asking! How dare they get 'huffy'! They have no reason to need to know this, other than being nosy gits. They should seriously fuck right off. [very grumpy 3rd trimester emoticon]

It's none of their business, tell them they'll have to wait. [slightly less grumpy 3rd trimester emoticon ]

I don't believe in telling other people the name before the baby arrives. That's my 3 year old dd's job who has blabbed around nursery and the creche we use at the gym People always have a 'reaction' and you need to pick a name that you love as you'll be saying it a whole lot over the next few years!

When pregnanant with my DS1 we had a few names in mind, but decided to keep them to ourselves. We just said we wasn't sure on the name yet and left it at that.
The reason we didn't want to tell people weas simply because we didn't want to be put off a name we really liked.

My sister and I are both pregnant she has told me and the family the names she likes - they are quite nice however, our mother has already tried to put her off the names she and her husband like!!

I feel really strongly about not telling people! Loads of people have asked, and we have just said we don't know yet. We also know the sex as the sonograper inadvertently told us without us wanting to know - so we are pretending we don't know that as well! I know it's silly but I think people become less interested once they know they sex/name and I want to keep it to ourselves until the big day!