What do you do when you and your dh are at complete loggerheads over chosing a name?

[Tropicana]

We do not know the sex of our baby.

We have chosen and agreed on a boy's name, no problem.

However, we both struggled to come up with a girl's name that we really liked.

Now, I have decided that I really want to go for Caitlin, but he is not keen at all.

He wants Charlotte, which I think is okay but I do not want it. If I was to go along with it, I would always be thinking that I never wanted to call her that.

We just cannot come up with anything that we both totally agree on.

Wait until it's born. Men usually soften once they've seen you give birth

Good strategy. And I suppose, it might just work.

Is a risky one though. What would I do if he does not fold?

How long have you got to work on him? If you don't want Charlotte, then you don't have it. Likewise, if he really doesn't like Caitlin then you can't expect him to go for it. There are hundreds of names out there - you will just have to find something else you both like.

With both our dds we could NOT agree on names at all - either boys or girls (we didn't know either time what we were having).

That said, we named our dd1 within about 30 mins of her arrival and dd2 within 2 hours.

First time round I was out of it after 72 hours of induction, no sleep and a middle of the night emergency c-sec and insistent we had to name her then and there. I said he could have his name choice (and since have loved it !). DD2 he said I could have my choice but I knew he really loved his choice and mine was a compromise choice so in the end we rang dd1 (aged 4) and gave her the choice. She chose my choice.

If you both adamantly don't want each others choices (FWIW especially with dd2 neither of us got our top names as neither could agree to the others real favourite) can you compromise on other names ?