Changing first choice name just because Husband keeps telling people

[Champagneforlunch]

I thought I had decided on a boys name but as the title suggest my husband went and told his mum and sister. Now for some reason I want to change it despite not liking anything else and dd being convinced nothing else will do.

Any suggestions on somthing similar to Lachlan?

Lorcan
Logan

Tell everyone you've changed mind and decided on Lorcan, then go back to Lachlan when he arrives.

Stick to your guns and keep it if it's the name you love.
Did you specifically tell your dh not to say anything? (Just working out if he went against your wishes or is just clueless!)
Did his Mum or sister give their opinion?

I knew he has asked other peoples opinions on it which I didn't mind but when he told them something just annoyed me, think it might of been the fact he added his dads name as middle name despite me saying I want two middle names. They also didn't make any comment on it so have no idea what they thought about it.

I really shouldn't tell him things. I really love the name though, thinking of watching Hamish Macbeth episodes with the stupid Lachlan character to put me off it and decide on something new.

if your in laws mention it just say its one of a few you are considering and nothings set in stone until you see what he looks like etc. i wouldnt try to find anything else if you love it.

I'm not sure what the problem is tbh, but maybe thats because I knew the sex of both my children at the 20 week scan and also had decided on both their given names soon after if people asked we would tell them, if they had a problem then it was tough. If you truly love the name stick with it xx

PS its a lovely name

What about

Murray
Campbell
Nairn
Dougray
Hector
Hamish (you mentioned already)
Brodie
Roscoe

you have my sympathy - I'd feel the same if my DH did that. Although I might well do what juwesm suggests and tell them you've changed your mind to ?Hamish or something else. Then when the baby is born change your mind back and call him Lachlan. Then they won't actually 'know' in advance what your final choice is.
As for the middle name thing, I think you and Dh need to thrash that out! I have similar problems with my DH by the way.

he told his mom and his sister not just any random people...what is yor problem...or was the response of those people negative? Lachlan is, imho, a fab name....really like it!

You had decided? Isn't it up to both of you?

Luca?
Lucas?

"I really shouldn't tell him things".

I don't get this comment. Do you mean the names you like?!

I'd ask your husband to pretend you have changed your mind, and then stick with the original.

I also don't see what the problem is - you do realise that this baby is his as well don;t you and that he is entitled to his own opinion.

Have you told your parents the name you were thinking of?

Thanks for the repies.
I have told people names we were thinking of but never as a definate, which is what he did. The idea of telling them I changed my mind is probaby what I would do, but then again the baby is due in four weeks and I doubt we will speak to them before then.
I know it is partly his decision but it is also partly mine, he did the same with Dd, thought of a name and wouldn't change his mind so this time I want to make sure I get some sort of say in it (he has agreeded that I have the final say this time as he picked Dds name).
The thing about not telling him things is he gets an idea in his head and getting him to change his mind is nearly impossible.
We don't know the sex so I'm kind of hoping its a girl as I still don't have any idea of girls names.

You do know you are a being a bit bonkers, don't you? You are ALLOWED to be at this stage of pregnancy, thought!

But the baby is half his, and is his mother's grandchild - he's not telling random people - he's telling his mother and his sister!

And as for "not telling him things" - do you mean that you should wait til the baby's born, decide on a name then let your dp know what you've decided?

I do know the reason for changing how I feel about the name is irrational and don't want to make the decision on my own and will dicuss it with him.
As for him it being his mother and sister he was telling I would really like to have known first as we had never actually decided on anything and I had seen it as just one name that both of us had quite liked. He's actually alright with me changing my mind and for the reasons and has been really careful not to tell anyone else.
I like the thought of having a few names and deciding after the baby is born. It was always something that bothered me after Dd was born that I never got to look through books or consider alternatives, hence why starting this post.

I wouldn't worry about it. We told loads of people the names we had chosen for our DD's - we're crap at being secretive! When they were born and we "revealed" the self-same names, most people had forgotten.

A lovely name BTW, but if his mother is anything like my MIL, she will be so befuddled by the fact that your choice is something slightly less conventional and she will have amended it until it became a name she could understand ..... Larry?