Middle names

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heverhoney1 · 21/04/2009 14:39

My mum is fairly adament that a middle name should be "After" someone.

Now I have 1 sister and I get on with my mum, My DP has quite a few sisters but does not get on very well with his mum.

I would like to have a middle name that is personal to me and is not after a relative but after a something that reminds me of childhood memories. In my mind this is preferable to naming my little girl after a person in either of our families that could cause some sort of bad feeling or rift in the future.

Opinions on a postcard please

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Iklboo · 21/04/2009 14:42

Unless you make up an entirely new name it's always going to be after someone.
Oh - and it's your DC, not your mum's. Bad feeling or no, tell her to butt out unless she wants to give birth for you

Iklboo · 21/04/2009 14:42

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GooseyLoosey · 21/04/2009 14:43

I think middle names do usually have a "reason" behind them or there is not too much point. but that reason does not have to be naming your child after someone.

campion · 21/04/2009 18:24

My DC's middle names were chosen because we liked them -that was the 'reason'. Your mum had her choice with you and your sister,presumably,so shouldn't be interfering.

Just choose what you like and either go selectively deaf or tell her you have chosen *. End of. Don't get into a discussion about it - you've got better things to do

VeryAnnieMary · 21/04/2009 19:03

My sister and I have middle names from our god-parents. It was only a couple of years ago I realised this wasn't the norm....

I'd give a name from a character in a book and not find it odd. (not Smeagol probably)

Mums (in this instance) are for politely smiling at and then quietly ignoring. At least that's my plan. She'll be so chuffed with new arrival she prob won't care.

edam · 21/04/2009 19:05

I'm named after my mother's bridesmaids. Who I've not seen since I was a baby, as it happens.

Ds has two middle names after both granddads but that was dh's idea, I wasn't determined to name him after relatives.

You don't have to follow any rules, just choose a name you like and tell your mother that's the end of the discussion!

Rindercella · 21/04/2009 19:08

Your baby, your choice of names. Give your child a name that means something to you. Giving her a name from your childhood memories sounds lovely. In the nicest way, tell your Mum to butt out.

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heverhoney1 · 21/04/2009 19:36

Thanks for the support everyone!! will stick to my guns!!!

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