Just a question?

[KinderEggKayzr]

Please I don't want anyone to be offended so please don't take this the wrong way anyone.

My friend has just had her scan and she is having a girl. They are going to call her Evangeline but she doesn't want anyone to call her Evangeline as she wants people to call her Evie. Evangeline is her name for when she gets married or becomes a lawyer.

So what I really want to know is why give your DC a long name such as Evangeline if you don't want anyone to call her that?

For the record I love Evangeline and Evie.

I think it's good to have a formal proper name, gives the child some options.

I just don't get it. I don't see the point in having a formal name.

I prob wouldn;t do it ,as don;t like the longer versions of many names! lol

BUT it does give the child an option for when they are older

At least it's an abbreviation that makes sense and IS a shortened version of the full name. It's when people say 'we're going to call her Georgina but she'll be known as Mimi' that I don't get it.

It very much depends on whether I like the longer name or not.

If I like it, then yes, I would do it.

If I don't like it, then definitely no.

My second dd has has a nicknamey type name according to the mn masses. I didn't like the longer versions and would never give my child a name that I didn't like.

If they don't want anyone to call her Evangeline, then I don't think they should use it, it seems a bit odd to me. I think Evie is fine as a grown up name anyway.

I like children to have a long proper name, but I would also use the name. Find it strange to give your child a name you don't want anyone to use.

Mrswoolf that is very strange, why didn't they just put Tilly on BC then.

I think it's fine to give the option - Evie may hate to have what she considers to be a nickname, or she may love it and never call herself anything else - you can always go shorter if you have a long name, but if your birth cert says Evie you can't suddenly decide you wished you'd beeen called Evangeline.

I would give the longer name and have the option. For example my parents always called me by my full name but I prefer the shorter version and even my parents have used it since I was about 18yrs. I know a James whose parents always intended him to be Jamie and that is what they called him from birth, when he started the junior school he insisted on James-he corrected people every time. I know a DD called Kitty-that is all she has-no second name. I feel that she may hate it when older and it would have been nice to have a Katherine or Catriona to fall back on.

we named DS2 Sol, not solomon.
we liked both names but the decision came down to the meaning of the name in the end. Sun vs peace.
the downside for me is that i need a longer name for when i'm telling him off.
so i actually still call him solomon in that case.

I knew a girl for about 10 years before I found out that her name wasn't actually her name!

Her birth certificate says Riona, but she has ALWAYS gone by Rosie!

She said that as she is gets older she may prefer Riona, which is far more grown up and less girly, which she can always use.

It's good to have an option but can lead to some confusion.

A baby wouldn't really suit Evangeline but an older child would. It gives them the chance to choose what they want to be known by when they are older.

I've got an Edward that has never been called Edward!
Not sure he would appreciate being Teddy when he is looking for a job at 18 though and I like the name Edward (although love Teddy) so he has the formal name too!

Well, my DSD2 and my DS both have 'formal' names, but neither uses them and both have shortened names.

DSD2 is Issy (Isabel) and DS is Harry (Harrison). I would never consider the shortened names as birth cert. material. Sorry if that sounds snobby, but I wouldn't.

DDTB (due August) will also have a formal name and a shortened name - most probably Emily, shortened to Milly.

What suits a baby doesn't neccessarily suit an older child or an adult. A formal name is good for the future and doesn't have to be used. But, giving a child a nickname leaves little room for negotiation.

My personal hate is kids called Charlie, who have Charlie on their birth cert. CHarles, as a formal name, IMHO, is so much nicer and classier.

I love the name Charlie but not keen on Charles

i would use the short form of a name ,no probs

I have a Billy. I dont personally like William so he is Billy on his birth certificate. i have had some comments about it not being appropriate but i still love his name.

if you are going to go for the longer name you must expect some people - ie teachers - to use it. i didnt want him to keep having to say "its Billy not William."

Dd has a longer name, but has usually been known by her nickname at home, at least when we speak English to her (it's a Swedish name). When she started school, her friends went home and told their mums that she's not called X (nickname), her real name is Y (long name). So she has been Y until she started secondary, where her friends seem to be using a different nickname.

It's one of those names that you can do a lot with. And her take on what she prefers has changed over the years too. I think she might well prefer her long name as an adult, as it is a little bit more unusual (but not difficult) and stylish.

We used to know a little boy we always called "Tobiastobyforshort", because that's how his mum always introduced him

Condoleeza Rice. Need I say more? I'm sure her parents thought it was cute at the time. People's name are the first thing most people see/ encounter about them. If you call them Lorry or Phantomas or Bilk you are setting them up for a lifetime of having to try to overcome people's initial impressions of them.

She did rather overcome any problems her name might have caused her though, eh?