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Slightly off topic but need help.

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louisejohnson87 · 28/03/2009 19:25

A friend of mine has just had a baby with his girlfriend, however she went and registred the baby and gave the baby her surname and didn't put my friends name on certificate.

All very strange considering they are still together and my friend has no intention of leaving!

We all thought that she had only got together with him so that she could have a baby, this kind of proves it to us.

Does anyone know if he can do anything???

I know it's off topic but I thought one of you fab women would have an idea???

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Littlefish · 28/03/2009 19:28

I could be wrong, but from what I've read on mumsnet, I don't think there's anything he can do. If they're not married, he would have needed to be with her to put his name on the birth certificate.

LynetteScavo · 28/03/2009 19:30

I don't think there is anything he can do as they're not married. If they do marry they can re-register the child.

If he wan't to know, though, a quick call to the registry office should do it.

(And I think you should butt out, TBH).

Ewe · 28/03/2009 19:34

I think he could apply through the courts for parental responsibility as that is the important consequence of this action. As it stands he will not have parental responsibility which as an involved parent seems very unfair.

FAQinglovely · 28/03/2009 19:35

according to this he could apply to the court for parental responsibility.

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louisejohnson87 · 28/03/2009 19:36

I think that last comment LynetteScavo is rather rude and uncalled for. I am just concerned that a little baby is going to grow up with out father and wanted some advice to pass on!

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Ewe · 28/03/2009 19:39

Here you go - re-registration of birth

FAQinglovely · 28/03/2009 19:39

he's not growing up without a rather - you said in your OP that he had no intention of leaving.

FAQinglovely · 28/03/2009 19:40

without a "father"

ByTheSea · 28/03/2009 19:40

He needs to apply for parental responsiblity ASAP.

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louisejohnson87 · 28/03/2009 19:42

He has no intention of leaving no, but if they ever did split up, or if she left, my friend would have no leg to stand on.

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Ewe · 28/03/2009 19:43

They just need to re-register asap then, it seems to be a fairly simple process so nothing too much to worry about unless your friend is likely to prevent this from happening.

busterk · 28/03/2009 19:43

I think littlefish is right. I thought if they weren't married you both had to go to registy office if both names were to appear on certificte. I could be wrong tho.

Ewe · 28/03/2009 19:44

I mean "your friends girlfriend is likely to prevent this from happening"

LynetteScavo · 28/03/2009 21:37

By louisejohnson87 on Sat 28-Mar-09 19:25:53

"We all thought that she had only got together with him so that she could have a baby, this kind of proves it to us."

So you and some others think your friends girl friend is only with him so she could have a baby, and if planning to run off and deny him access. You are concerned for the baby, as you think s/he will grow up with out a father.

All speculation speculation, but is this friend of yours really so dumb he can't find out his parental rights himself? Or do you (as I suspect) just want to get involved in something which isn't really your buisness, becuase it makes interesting conversation, and seem like a good friend.

Take a look it it from the mothers point of view. Why do you think she has chosen not to include the father on the birth certificate? Did he know she was going to register the baby or did she sneak off behind his back? If the father isn't presant, and the parents aren't married, the father cannot be named. IIRC.

orangehead · 28/03/2009 21:48

If not married then he has no choice over the name. Its only if they married. Her reason may not be what you think. I know someone who was asked for proof at a hospital appointment that her daughter was hers as her name was different to hers. Although think that was some one was being an arse at the hospital. But practically it might be easy to have the mums name and why not. Why should the dads name be priorty. It doesnt necc say anything about the relationship.

beanieb · 28/03/2009 21:51

It's not clear from your first post if he has told you he is worried about it. Has he, or is he OK with it?

FAQinglovely · 28/03/2009 21:56

Here's a thought - perhaps she didn't know that he had to be there to put his name on and get parental responsibility

controlfreakythecontrolfreak · 28/03/2009 21:56

an unmarried father has to be present at registration to have his name on certificate...

if married one parent only can register... so nothing to stop married parent registering in whatever name they choose.... dont see why you think being married gives you a "say" at point of registration...

as a parent both married and unmarried can apply for specific issue order to court re name etc (in theory!)

and as stated unmarried father should ask mother to enter into parental responsibility agreement asap. can apply to court if refused... but if they are in an ongoing relationship how likely is this?

oh, and agree it's really not your business.

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