I stupidly mentioned near the beginning of my pregnancy that I was thinking of having my mum's name as a middle name for our baby. But at that time I hadn't decided what her first name would be. I only mentioned it once, very briefly in passing that we were thinking of choosing her name.
Fast forward and I'm now 39 weeks, and we've known she's a girl since 17 weeks and have a name (provisionally) picked out, which she knows about and everyone likes, but which doesn't go with my mum's name, so had also decided on a different middle name. Anyway, my bf had a baby on Wed and they have chosen the same middle name as we had (Rose). I told my mum this and she started getting a bit arsey about how she was excited the baby was going to have her name and now she's really disappointed, I've let her down etc etc
I did try to explain that the names don't really 'go' together but she insists they do. DH is now saying we should use her name to keep her happy, especially since we would need to choose a different one anyway (AND Bf was due 3 days after me sob sob)
What do you think?
The name we've chosen is Samaya, my mum's name is Alicia, and our last name also begins with an Ahh sound.
I actually love the name Alicia and would be happy to use it if it 'worked' but I'm just not sure it does. Plus I don't get along exactly swimmingly with my mum anyway, and though she's madly excited about the baby, there's been quite a few arguments and tears along the way with her critisising me on everything from my choice of pram to the way I'm going to feed her. So while I don't want to cause any more upset I'm also not sure I want to cave in iyswim?