So today my Mum told me if I call my DD the name I like it will not be allowed at her house .

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I think she is joking sort of but she was really vile to me today in front of a few of our relatives and said well if you call her that she will not be coming to my house and I'm taking back the outfit I bought her,she made herself look stupid tbh because everyone looked at her like she was a loon.

I haven't even decided on it but we really like he Violet but want the middle names Elsie Grace (yes I know they spell out VEG) but we wont really use Elsie it is just down to the fact that my Grandma has around 18 GC and GGC and noone has used her name and I do think it is a pretty name .

She has no issues with Grandma so thats not it just the fact she is a control freak and wanted me to call the baby Daisy .

Is it a really vile name it's not is it and I realise her initals spell out Veg I suppose I could find another name rather than Grace .

I am not ignoring any replies BTW just going for a quick bath.

There's nothing wrong with your names and your mum needs to grow up!

I have compelled my mother-in-law to admit (as I suspected) that she wasn't too keen on dd1's name. Like the sensitive adult that she is she knew it was none of her business and kept quiet. Now of course she loves it!

It's a great name - really love it.
I don't get why people get so stressed by what initials spell, I doubt if anybody apart from the parents ever make the connection.

Better than Vag !

I think Violet is a lovely name.

My Mum didn't like the name we chose for our ds, but I decided I didn't need her approval at my age and she's had to get used to it! Stick with Violet!

Lovley name - but agree with flippimg middle names around. My mother sais that she would'nt babysit I had another DC - guess what I am.

Sounds like she is trying to bully you into doing what she wants.

Violet is a lovely name

Violet is a lovely name. We will be naming our dd Violet Rose in about 12 weeks time so Im really pleased I read this thread as it has made me feel even better about the name. My SIL and Mother think its lovely name but my father, FIL and MIL all detest the name so it had made me a little worried what other people would think. In fact when we told MIL her reply was well I will just call her Jessica (which is the name that was under discussion previously!

Thanks all I have been talking about it with DP and have come up with some other middle names so what do you think be honest .

Violet Elsie Lydia -thats both Grandmas then

Violet Elsie Rose.

It's a lovely name and your mum sounds unhinged I'm afraid.

Can you change the order so it doesn't spell Veg?

I added a name in for my DS1 so he wouldn't have the initials CJD!

6 kids though...respect

pmsl at geepers ....sorry

Sounds like your mum is sulking because she wanted to pick the name (Daisy). I don't think GPs have a right to do so (they named their own children) and it will be her loss if she follows through her threat.

I was expecting some ridiculous name that she could have taken offence at, but Violet is lovely.

I don't worry too much about initials either. Our DD (including surname) is KLF which we thought was quite funny and only those people of our generation would even know the KLF anyway!

When i told my mum we were thinking of Charlie for a boy, she didnt like it at all ("proper Charlie" and all that) and she then said "well we'd better hope its a girl then!". It's not lol, but we still haven't chosen the name for sure yet.

I should make my message clearer- I am expecting another baby (DS2) ATM.

Think Hectate summed it up pretty well!
Maybe if you are worried about the VEG thing switch the two middle names around. DON'T lose the Grace, its a beautiful name (I am biased as my gorgeous DD aged 2 is Grace)
Your mum surely has to be joking?

Love Violet.

Dd's middle names are 'Elsie Rose' so, of course, I'm biased

Violet is gorgeous.
Unlike your mum.
(Work on the veg thing though, defoo.)

I do not like the name Violet

BUT your mum was way out of order!

ok if she doesnt like your choice,she can say ,but not in such a nasty way !

LOve the name Violet
Violet Elsie Lydia is beautiful

YOur mother is acting bonkers.
My Momspeant weeks trying to talk me out of my choice (Thea) and to have Imogen instead (a lovely name but we know of an Imogen and that Big Brother series with Imogen had just been on). I had DS2 anyway! But I was very upset by her obviously not liking my choice.

My MOm spent weeks, obv

I would never tell my mum the name in advance. Do what you want and if your mum wants to miss out on her grandchildren then that's her problem

Obviously you didn't ask for opinions on names but not personally keen on Violet either, but guess what? It's none of my business and it's none of your mother's either.

She sounds mad.

Tell her that it's more important that your generation like the name than her generation.

My mum was like this too... She suggested names like Melanie and Claire, which are nice names I suppose but she was stuck on a list from 40 yrs ago I think!

I think it's a beautiful name and I wouldn't worry about the VEG bit either - how often does anyone ever really spell out their initials? I hate my middle name so I always leave it out when asked to fill out forms.

Sorry your mum is being stupid - stick to your guns and go with the names you love.

So they were looking at her like she was a loon eh?

Sounds about right.

You call your baby whatever you like. Daisy, no no no no no no.

I liked the name Jessie for a boy for DS1 and everyone laughed at it, saying he would be a pansy. I didnt choose then name but my Step-dad said that he wouldnt use the name, and would call him Bill instead.

I love Violet and I dont think you should listen. I also think Violet Elsie Lydia is really nice. I wanted Niamh Olivia for our DD but as our surname begins with B i didnt want her to be NOB

Crazy lady (your mother that is).

Call your baby the name you like - ignore her. I bet she won't ignore you or the baby at all.

We have friends who bowed down to the M/MIL re: names. The poor husband was mowed down by his MIL.

Violet Elsie Lydia
perfect

Tell her you've changed your mind and are now set on Chlamydia Chardonnay Cruella.