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What do you do when you can't agree?

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bronze · 31/12/2008 11:51

I've written a list of 20ish names. DH has poopooed (good word) them all. Hes suggested a couple names. I know that his names are perfectly respectable names as are my choices but they don't make me go YES thats the one as I guess my choices don't for him.
I've read the entire boys section of a 50,000 names name book and can't find any more.
Now this isn't about which of my names or his names do you like because that's not going to make either of us change our minds but more where do we go from here? What have other people done?

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plinkplinkfizzpops · 01/01/2009 11:22

Can you rethink your criteria?

I have a thing about not using names that have already been used by friends or family, and I have discounted a lot of really nice names for this reason, but if I could not think of a single name I liked I would consider using one already used.

Extreme circumstances and all that - a better option in my book than naming a child something I was not completely in love with.

Also do the list thing and put the onus on your DH. Tell him if he doesn't come up with a better choice than your current favourite then that is what the baby will be called. He will go mad searching and realise that there are no other choices and perhaps rethink his options.

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bronze · 24/01/2009 17:27

Oh sod I'm at the gestation dd was born at still no name.

I'm thinking of leaving it and insisting on Elijah John when I'm in labour. That in itself wouldn't work but I'm going to convince him he can call the baby EJ if he has to.

Unless anyone has any more ideas?

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RachieB · 24/01/2009 18:24

what about Ellis or Elliot ? would he / you go for either of those ?

similar ish ! lol

Thunderduck · 24/01/2009 18:26

I love Elijah or perhaps just Eli.

mrsseanbean · 24/01/2009 18:28

It's easy. The mother has the casting vote. She has suffered pregnancy and given birth FGS!

Thunderduck · 24/01/2009 18:28

Both will be raising the child, so have equal say imo.

oneblueandonepink · 24/01/2009 19:06

Elias nn Eli is PERFECT

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bronze · 24/01/2009 19:54

biased?

I know that! tell him!
I think Elijah is slightly more 'norma' than Elias which is why I have stuck to that. same with Gideon. I will keep fighting

I dont think I would be so bothered if he would actually make an effort.

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naturalbornmum · 24/01/2009 20:11

If this happens to us - I will choose.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 24/01/2009 20:13

We wrote our own lists, narrowed down to favourite 3each and then left it around until we came to an agreement. DD was much easier then DS.

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bronze · 03/04/2009 13:21

Still no further with names. 3 weeks til due date but mw thinks I'll go early. Help

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 03/04/2009 13:24

We let dd1 choose dd2's name as we couldn't agree. Although she was called Sophie Bunny the Third for a while, so maybe not a good idea.

thell · 03/04/2009 13:53

What about Jolyon? (pronounced Joe-lee-on, like Julian) That way it's similar to Joseph, but more unusual, and DH could still call him Joe for short?

thell · 03/04/2009 13:55

Or Jonah / Jonas ?

I know a Jonah, and it's a cute name with a child attached to it. As long as he doesn't want to join the Navy when he grows up,...

thell · 03/04/2009 13:57

I have sympathy by the way - I haven't even conceived our second child yet, and I know it's going to be a battle. I feel quite upset that DH doesn't like any of the same names I do. P

LilianGish · 03/04/2009 14:00

Luckily we both agreed, but in the event of a disagreement I would have had the casting vote as compensation for being the one giving birth!

Wheelybug · 03/04/2009 14:03

We didn't agree much with either dd.

DD1,no name decided - I was induced early, after 72 hours of failed induction,no sleep, a cocktail of drugs and middleof night c-sec I was adamant she had to named right that minute so agreed to dh's choice. Which I Have no regrets about - love itnow.

DD2, agreed even less. Got down to 2 compromise names - even when she'd arrived we couldn't agree so rung dd1 (who is 4) and got her to choose. Again, no regrets so far (but she'sonly 3 weeks old!).

llynnnn · 03/04/2009 14:43

i can sympathise! dd2 is due in 8 weeks and we can't agree on a name! we wrote down a list of 5 of our favourites a couple of weeks ago and have just left it lying around. over the last 2 weeks we have narrowed it down to just 2 names, as the more we both look at the list, the more we have both gone off some of the names!

we have also been referring to the baby as each of the names and sometimes hearing it in reality in 'real' sentences changes your opinion!

good luck

PinkTulips · 03/04/2009 15:03

i refused to budge.

told dp that i couldn't imagine our son with any name but the one i liked and he'd either have to suggest one that felt right to me or get to liking my choice.

about 2 weeks before the birth he announced my choice 'had grown on him' and that's ds2's name now

pranma · 03/04/2009 16:41

Gideon Joseph
Elias Joel

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