When the PILs insist the new baby is named after one of them ....

[ghosty]

This was relayed to me by a mum at school. Playground gossip, pure and simple, but it's perfect for MN.
So the family in question are Aussies and the parents came from Greece in the '60s. The Greek tradition is that babies' first names are after the grandparents. They don't know if the baby is a boy or a girl. If the baby is a boy he will be called Peter (easy peasy). If the baby is a girl she has to be called .... Antigone
(the way the mum pronounced it it rhymed with Antipathy )

WWYD? the mum is in turmoil ...

This is a greek tradition, at least it is in cyprus. I have an anglicised version of my grandmothers name. Even my little next door neighbour who happens to be of greek cypriot descent on her father's side is named after her grandmother. I don't think it has to be the exact name, just a version of it
ie when my little sister was born my greek nan suggested they name her after my welsh nan Dorothy, names that were suggested Theodora, Dorothea etc My mum didn't like any of them so she was called something else.

just say no!

You carry/birth it, you name it. Simple as....