Should I change my baby name ?

[mithishan]

Hello everyone! I am 27 F expecting my first baby girl i want to name her Avery, but my husband says it sounds too white meaning I am Mexican but raised here and he was born here in the US but raised in Mexico. He is saying when his friends and family ask him they can’t translate it in Spanish in my defense she will be going to school here and being raised here so I don’t see the problem.

You didn't say where "here" is, but I'm in the UK and I always associate Avery with a brand of scales.

I think that in general it’s better to try and find a name you both agree on.

I love the name! But if my babies aunts and uncles spoke a different first language I would really try and choose a name that works for both languages. Will she be bilingual?

I think you need to choose a name you are both happy with.

"...And he was born here in the US .."
Sounds like OP is in the USA.

I am also in the UK and hear Avery as a very "American" name (as in, more common there than here but not unrecognisable) and don't associate it with a beach's at all.

But I would say birth perfected should agree on a name and "family can't say it" is a perfectly legitimate reason for vetoing it.

In Spanish it makes me think of the word avería, so really negative to be honest. Even in English it’s where birds live isn’t it? So not great.

What about Eva, Ava, Ariana, Paloma, Robin?

Avery, to me, is a boys name. A studious boy who loves literature.
It's fair that both parents like their child's name.

Your DH doesn't like Avery so find something else.
Aurelia
Evangeline

Isn’t it too close to the Spanish for breakdown/failure? I work with an aviation software called Awery but pronounced Avery and I always have that in the back of my mind when something goes wrong with it and I’m not even a native Spanish speaker!

That’s an aviary

It's a surname of Anglo-Saxon origin and a brand of weighing scales. It's often confused with aviary.
It seems an unusual choice of name for a girl with strong Mexican heritage, especially seeing as it's so close to avería (breakdown).

It's not all that popular in the UK and is unisex.
There are thousands of names you could choose from.

Your husband isn't keen so I suggest you keep looking for the right name.

I like the name Avery for a girl or boy. However if he doesn't like it, then unfortunately you will have to look at other names. Both of you should be on board with the name.

You don't see a problem, but he does. The best thing to do would both keep looking for a name you both like. It's pretty common in a case where extended family and especially grandparents speak a different language to prefer a name that's pronounceable in that language as well as in the language of the country where the child will grow up although of course there are no hard and fast rules.

I guess Avery would technically translate to Alfreda (although I don't think that's really a name traditionally used in Spanish), but the pronunciation is harder - even spelled Ávery you're likely to get something like AH-vehr-ee.

Are there any other names on your list? Has he suggested any?

Avery was a white, male character in the country music melodrama - Nashville, that was popular about 10 years ago. So I think of it in that genre and more male. I am in the UK as I think most people are on here, well the UK, Ireland, a bit of Europe. A lot of people on this board take issue with 'American' names. You'd probably be better asking on a more US or Mexican focussed chat forum as to how it would work in your community and family. I would suggest not giving your child a name half his/her very close family will struggle to pronounce or associate with.

To me it's a surname and it sounds plain ugly, sorry.

Reminds me of Aviary - bird cage.

Not a good choice especially if your dh is not keen. Can you find a name you're both OK with?

It’s a name of British origin. Can be male or female - cannot see anything wrong with it.

Would he like ...
April
Avril
Augusta

The ‘problem’ is your husband doesn’t like the name, so find one you both like