Thomas (Tommy) or Benji?

[firsttimepregnanthelp]

Hi everyone,

Baby boy is 10 days old and bf and i can't agree on names. I like traditional names (George, Harry, Oliver etc) and I don't like bf's suggestions (Blake, Reese, Paul, Alex).

The two that we both don't hate but don't love are Thomas (Tommy) and Benjamin.

I really don't love the idea of having to compromise on my child's name but which out of those two is better? Any other suggestions?

I like Thomas (and Tommy) and I like Benjamin (and Ben) - but Benji is icky, sorry.

Alexander and Paul are both very traditional. Yours are more Royal/common.

Thomas over Benji any day.

Thomas and Benjamin (nn Ben not Benji) are both very nice names, but no good if you don't both love them OP. Alexander and Benedict are both good suggestions, or how about:

Ethan
Joshua
Toby
Ryan
Dylan
Saul

I have a Sebastian and Benjamin , I call mine , BAs & Benj but they get called Seb & Ben by friends . Family members call my two , bassy, and benjy , they are 28and 22 😂 they don’t mind at all . We are all very close.

I take Thomas ( Tom ) and Benjamin out of your choices . ( obviously your choice to decide how to shorten it ) .

I like Tom, Tommy is ok for a baby/toddler (not keen on Thomas, not sure why!) and Ben/Benjamin is fine, but definitely not Benji.

I like your suggestion of Harry and his suggestion of Alex. Alexander to Alex should fit the vibe you were going for?

Just to blast out a load of names for you:
Noah
Henry
Leo
Louis/Louie
Max
Alfie
Archie
Reuben
Rupert
Arthur
Elijah
Lucas
Arlo
James
William
Miles
Caleb
Zachary (Zac etc)

Sorry my first thought was also that Benji is a name for a dog.

But Ben and Tommy are both fine.

I love Thomas and Benjamin but prefer Tom and Ben as nn. Benji sounds like a dog.

Thomas and Benjamin are both lovely names. I slightly prefer Thomas (Tom) but only just.

I don’t think your name lists are very different at all (with maybe the exception of Blake!). Alexander is a very traditional name - I think the same person who considers Alexander would also consider Oliver, George etc. Rhys is quite nice. Paul is very traditional but obviously not very current. I’m sure it will come back, but most of us know lots of 45-60 year old Pauls and none younger.

I know a Paolo. Admittedly he has an Italian Dad, but if my DH had suggested Paul, it is one I would consider as a compromise?

It isn't hard to pronounce or anything, but just has a bit more swagger and finesse than Paul, which I agree is a bit dated and staid.

Saul.

What other names have you considered?