Any name suggestions?

[Mysticblue]

I’m currently pregnant with my second child and I’m due to find out the gender at the end of next month. I’ve been finding names since I found out I was pregnant because I’m very indecisive and wanted to be certain that I’d like the name so far me and my partner have decided on Lily Chloe for a girl and Jacob Freddie for a boy. Lily and Freddie are both in honour and memory of my Grandad, who passed last year he was one of my biggest influences and I never had a good relationship with my mom but I did her dad and I recently told her the names I’ve decided on. She instantly said she doesn’t like those name as we already have a Freddie and a Lily in our family and she said “They’ll think you’re naming the baby after them” that isn’t the case at all as the baby will be named after my grandad but now I’m rethinking the names because deep down I wails like for her to like them as it’s her dad I’m wanting to name the baby after. Should I rethink them or just ignore her and stick to the names I have? If I do rethink them does anyone have any suggestions to name the baby after my grandad as I don’t want to use his name as it’s very old fashioned. My grandad’s name was Geoffrey Frederick.

I would call the baby Jacob Frederick. Frederick is so much nicer than Freddie.

Was Lily your grandmother?

Thank you for your reply and no lilies were my grandad’s favourite flowers and one of my favourite flowers too

I never had a good relationship with my mom
Why are you telling her the names you have lined up?

Remember your dm had her chance to name her own dc.. Now it's your turn.

Tell her you're calling the baby Geoffrey whether it's a boy or a girl and don't talk about names again until you are announcing your newborn's name.

What about 'Lilias' instead of lily?

Because I have a decent relationship with her now and it’s her grandchild

Thank you I will in future I was kind of hoping she’d be over criticising everything I do but I suppose she’s not

Because I have a decent relationship with her now better than I did before and it’s her grandchild

If you plan to use Freddie only as a middle name I don’t think it matters at all there’s another in the family. I personally wouldn’t duplicate a first name unless it’s a distant relative you only see at weddings and funerals so if it’s your sister that has a Lily I’d maybe do Chloe Lily instead. But also don’t tell anyone the names until baby is here unless you really truly want their opinion!!

Call your baby whatever you like, unless Lily is a super close relative (eg a niece of a similar age who you see a lot), in which case it could get confusing.

How about Freya for a girl (from GeofFREY)?

I LOVE Frederick and think having a GF of that name is the perfect opportunity to use it. It's a fabulous name. Call him Frederick, then go by Freddie as a nn.

Lily is also sweet. Would you consider Elizabeth (which actually goes really well if you had a Frederick as well!) and call her Lily as a nn for that? I also love the pp suggestion of Freya in honour of GeofFREY.

I agree with you that Geoffrey doesn't work as a first name these days, but would you consider Frederick Geoffrey? Otherwise Frederick Jacob is nice.

I'm not so find of Choe with Lily as they are kind of both two syllables and end in ee so it sounds a bit sing-songy.

I think Lily Chloe is too sing-songy.
How about Lillian Chloe? Or Chloe Lillian?

Jacob Frederick would be nicer than Jacob Freddie.

I love the names you have chosen but thought I'd say that Susannah, Shana and Calla all mean Lily too

As others said I think it all depends on how close the Lily is, is she your niece who you see all the time? I wouldn't repeat then I would use it as a middle name. With Freddie using it as a middle name is fine doesn't matter they're in the family.

Love the suggestion of Freya, or also Georgia could work. Both would go really well with the middle name Lily.

I'm sorry your mum has upset you. When you've had a tough relationship in the past it's hard to know if she's giving friendly advice, or trying to just meddle. I think decide what you think is right and then not tell her until birth because she had the chance to name her kids. Doesn't sound like she's upset you're using an honour name for your grandpa and that's the bit that matters, just the specific names.

How about Frederick Hugo or Lily Rosalind?

Choose a name with your partner that you both like, and don't talk to anyone else about it until baby arrives and their name is decided.

If those are the names you love, use them.

Maybe Lilian or Lilyana nn Lily?

I think they’re both lovely names.

Another vote for Jacob Frederick! Jacob Freddie is still lovely though

I love both Lily and Chloe, but for some reason I think they sound a bit much together? Some of the suggestions given about changing the name slightly I would agree with.

Jacob Frederick is handsome.

Lily is lovely, and Chloe, though together they sound not the best.

Lily Susanna
Lily Winifred
Lily Clothilde
Lily Frederica

Frederick instead of Freddie.

Lilac instead of Lily.

Rule number 1 when naming a child: talk to nobody only your other half about it. 😅

We named both of our children after grandparents and put it in the text that was sent out when they were born, 'Welcome baby X, named after her great granny". That would immediately eliminate any confusion for your family members but honestly I really don't think they would suspect you named your children after them anyway, unless they are a bit self centred!

Rule number 2 when naming a child: dont tell Mumsnet the names! Freddie and Lily are really lovely names, mumsnet has an unreasonable hatred toward diminutives that have become stand alone names so I'd ignore them comments if I were you.