He doesn’t look how I pictured a Joseph

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I had my heart set on Joseph, Dh has brown hair and I have the darkest of brown thick curly hair and brown eyes with olive skin and we’d decided on Joseph.
I pictured a dark haired boy with dark brown hair and eyes possibly like Joey Tribbiani from friends or Joe Wicks.
Ds was born on Friday with the palest complexion and bright blonde hair and bright blue eyes.
He’s absolutely beautiful and I’m so in love with him but he’s just not how I pictured a Joseph.
Do I stick with it and hope he’ll grow into it?

Why can’t a Joseph be blond? We’ve got a blond and a ginger Joseph in our family. It never occurred to me that they should have dark hair. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ds was born on Friday with the palest complexion and bright blonde hair and bright blue eyes

Wouldn't base it on either hair colour or eye colour.

One of my kids was born with very bright blue eyes. They turned brown within a few months. The rest of my kids born with blue eyes, stayed blue, but I don’t believe you can base it on birth colour!

Same with hair. Not my own kids, but one side of my family, all born as very blonde blondes. Some turned brown as young children and while their hair had shifted to a sandy blonde by time starting school, by around 8yo it had turned brown. The rest of them remained blonde through and during last few senior years in high school did quite a rapid turn to brown and they all end up as a dark blackish brown. It has been that way for three generations I know of on that side of the family. So blonde baby does not necessarily mean blonde child, does not mean blonde adult!

We were going to call my DS one name and when he arrived we decided it didn’t suit him and changed it.

Congrats!!!

Pp hormones are a wild ride!!!

I think maybe your problem is your baby doesn't look how he is supposed to"

We stuck with our names...

Weirdly
Ds didnt look ANYTHING like he was supposed to and now i think his name is perfect and love it so much...

And dd did looks exactly as pictured and i loved her name but now shes 3 i really dont think she suits her name and dont like.it that much but we are stuck with it 😅

Also my blonde baby now has very dark brown hair... things change!!
Eyes colour is also v different from birth....blue to deep hazel by 6m....

Be kind and take your time.
Joseph is a great name

I had the opposite with DS2. Like a PP we had a short list of 3 names. (6 short, 3x girls, 3x boys.)
Joshua had been suggested and I said no on the basis it's been in the top 5 forever so really common.
As soon as DS was born I knew his name was Joshua. We joke he might as well have been born with it tattooed on his forehead. And we've actually only met a handful of Joshua's a similar age.

I always think of a blonde boy when I hear Joseph.
I think subconsciously you picture someone you know.
OP said she pictured Joe Wicks because her and her partner both have dark curly hair so now I’m imagining op’s partner looks like him.

I pictured a little blonde boy with blue eyes because most of the Joseph’s I know are.

Blue eyed babies, with brown eyed parents, change colour over the coming months. My very blonde DS was completely brown by the age of 3! But this wasn’t surprising because neither of us are blonde.
Stick with Joseph, it’s a lovely name 😀

I would take the colouring out of it- he doesn’t look like his name to you and that’s fine. Your husband needs to be more understanding and open to a new name.
would a shortened name help- eg. Does he look like a Jo or jojo or j?

Not the point of the thread but - I hope adamant isn’t going to be your husband’s attitude to every aspect of parenting.

Can he not comprehend that your child’s name should be something you both want?

Our DD was Keriana for two days - had been set on it throughout pregnancy. Imagined a dark-haired girl with olive skin. Turned out blonde and blue-eyed. Day 3 we changed it to Polly and aged 19, she confirms she much prefers that!

We had a preferred name in mind when each of our DC were born. But both times we didnt feel it suited them, once we saw them
DD has the original name as a middle name, but for DS we chose a different name altogether

We really liked the name Ciaran for my second son but it means 'little dark one' so we discounted it as I'm blonde and DH is reddish.
He was born with dark hair brown eyes and olive skin. He's now 5 and it's stayed.
We had discounted Ciaran and totally forgotten it so he has a different name but I often think how well he would have suited Ciaran.
I think stick with Joseph as it suits all colours and complexions.

When I was having our third baby my eldest daughter loved the name Felicity (I had introduced her to Mallory Towers!), I loved it too, but really loved Fenella, NN Fen. I imagined Felicity as a blond baby and Fenella as a dark brunette (even though Fenella means 'white/fair shouldered). Baby born with whispy light hair, so Felicity it was. She now is as dark as me!!

My ds was scanned as a dd!! We obviously had to change the chosen name.. His new name means fair haired which indeed he was... Change it op.

This is why we just had a short list. We had a top name, but didn’t finalize anything. When dd was born, I knew within seconds that we needed to go with a particular one of the alternates. I just had to wait until DH and I had a chance to talk to make sure he was on the same page. It turned out he had exactly the same thought in the same moment so it was a short conversation.

Just change it, op!

FWIW that is exactly how the first Joseph I knew looked!

Many babies have blue eyes that change about the 6 month mark - especially when the parents have dark eyes. And hair very often darkens by the time they start school.

I knew a very dark Fenella too!

And yes, I agree, children tend to darken not lighten.

Such a gorgeous name. Whatever the colour. Love the name Joe

Did you have a middle name decided? Would it work to switch them?

But Joseph and Joe are beautiful names

We chose Joseph for our son and from the moment he was born he was very firmly Joey - id no plan/ intention to shorten but it just happened! Only the Drs receptionist calls him Joseph!!

We had one name we liked for DS (before he was born) ...but then thought it didnt suit him. It took 4 days, but in the end DH and I each wrote our top 5 names, and then ranked the others choices, and the highest score won!

I have a Joseph
he has brown eyes and blonde hair
he is now 25 and still the most beautiful person I know
Joseph is my favourite boys name, always will be

Your baby's hair and eyes may change colour significantly as he grows. One of my DDs was born with almost black hair and is now naturally blonde.