Baby's name

[NamesNamesGoAway]

I am struggling with baby's name. DC is 8 weeks old. I can't even explain how the name came to be. Its not a bad name at all, it's in the UK top 100. It's a nice name, but it's not THE name if that makes sense.

DC should have been named a name I've always adored, amd I cant shake the feeling. I don't know how we ended up taking it off our list, DH likes this name but loves the current name too. He was initially supportive of my feelings but has now decided I'm just bat shit crazy and suffering with buyers remorse, I am not even allowed to talk about it now. Has anybody else regretted the name, not changed it and learnt to love it? As looks like I just have to live with it now, but I hate introducing my baby.

i would change it . Post birth hormones. Just do it. Your baby won’t remember. I remember a neighbour doing this in the first few weeks.
be happy with your choice.

I can't , because DH isn't in agreement to change it. If it was solely up to me I would have done.

Tell him how badly it’s affecting you . Luckily he loves the other name too. He should allow you yo do this . 👍🏻

Is this your first? This feeling is very common early on because everything is so new, and babies don't feel like any name tbh. I don't think my daughter suited her name until 6 months, I just referred to her as baby before this. Ours was also a compromise name, because my partner and I have different styles, which again is very common, but now I love it and it suits her perfectly. I probably have the other view here, which is as long as you like the name enough (or don't hate it), then you should leave it and will grow to love it. If you agreed it before birth, this feeling is probably symptomatic of something else.

It's our second and I felt like nothing like this with our first. I like the name but I don't love it, but it does lend itself to some obvious nicknames and shortenings that I really do not like. I feel like I'm mourning the name I love.

If you are fixating on the name, then it might be worth going to see your GP .
Were you under pressure to name the baby immediately?

If it is a case of the baby not looking like a [name], it does take a while.

but it does lend itself to some obvious nicknames and shortenings that I really do not like It will get shortened. I have a long name with two potential nn, My parents insisted that it didn't get shortened. I'm now the shortened version.

What are the names?

You could say there was a bit of pressure to give a name, yes. It took two days name them in the first place but in that time I was exhausted, and we hadn't really thought too much about names. We had a list, and narrowed it down to two (first name and middle name) and I don't quite know why my favourite name didn't make the list. I guess I was just tired and hormonal post natally. 😖
Had a wobble before registered baby. Thought I was just being silly and felt it had gone too far at that part so I thought I needed to just get on the and it wouldn't be a big deal but it is just getting worse.

@NamesNamesGoAway , You could say there was a bit of pressure to give a name, yes. It took two days name them in the first place but in that time I was exhausted, sounds a familiar theme.
I think that the pressure to name a baby when you have only been a mother for hours, and your body is exhausted is not right.
The baby will have the name for life, and you need to still like it when you are 86 or whatever. It's a big decision.
I think the lack of control you feel over the name of this wonderful person you've brought into the world could make you ill. You aren't happy, but your DH won't help.

It's not that relevant (to us) what the names are, but examples might help.
What is relevant is that you need to be confident that you made the right decision.