Using daughters middle name as next borns middle name??

[Mummyof34onway]

Sorry TYPO! Using daughters middle name as next borns first name!!
We had twins 1 boy 1 girl. The girls middle name is Gwen after my late granny (full name Gwendoline) my husband didn’t like Gwendoline as a first or middle name at the time so compromised but shortening to Gwen.
after fertility issues and having treatment to have our twins we thought we were done well our next little surprise came. We don’t know gender and need a few name choices.
well my husband has decided he actually really likes Gwendoline (Gwen for nickname) and wants it in the list for this baby
what our peoples thoughts? All my kids have names to do with my granny or grandad and want to keep that going but running out of ways to do it as they do not have middle names just Gwendoline and Donald!

I think it's odd, like the last child wasn't worth the effort of picking a new name.

Is it common in either family to do this because that might make it better.

Sorry just to clarify, it would be the middle name of this baby? Not the first name?

I don't like honour names as first names, I think kids deserve their own first name without baggage. If it's just a repeated middle name I think that's fine, maybe a little odd but most people don't know middle names. Couldn't you use one of your partners grandparents names instead though?

My ex was James Richard and his db Richard... Felt a bit lacking in thought... And Richard was their df who turned out to be a proper Richard.....

No I would choose another first name… you’ve honoured your grandmother through your other daughter- find a new name for this baby. Is there someone on your DH side of the family that you could consider honouring?

I think it’s completely fine. People don’t normally use their middle names unless they are filling out forms etc.. They are children and at home for a short time after which they have their whole adult lives living separately and having their own friendships. No one would know about their sister’s full name and no one would care. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. It’s also a very sweet thought that in a way it’s honouring and linked to her older sister so she doesn’t feel left out as the twins will have a strong bond. This way they’ll also be linked in a way. Gwen is a lovely name!

This was done by a family friend. No one ever commented.

How about using their surname as a second name.

I think it’s fine.

My friend did this with her DC and it was absolutely fine, only immediate family know and remember middle names. I think it’s a nice link for the children

It is completely fine. I did this for DS, 2. I also asked this question here years ago and remain baffled and really irritated by some of the bizarre responses. Nobody cares about middle names. Nobody will remember (other than family) what your DDs middle name was. Do not put off using a name you love and is special to you, because some very odd opinions here totally over exaggerating the importance of middle names. I repeat: no-one cares (but you!!). I asked our first DS if he'd mind and he laughed and said why would be be bothered, he likes the fact they are linked in a very minor way through middle and first name.

I don't see anything wrong with that.
Gwens a lovely name

A (very) close relative knowingly used my son’s middle name as their son’s first name. Obviously day to day this is not a problem as we rarely refer to middle names but whenever any conversation comes up about middle names it’s like my son’s middle name isn’t his anymore.

Had I known the relative wanted this name I’d have used a different one. I personally don’t like that the two boys (close in age) share it, and my son seems to not like that it’s shared. So I think you’re taking away your older daughter’s middle name by doing this.

the world won’t end lol and this is something I’ve murmured about once to my husband in the 8 years since it happened so I really am not influencing my son, I just notice that he doesn’t respond with any joy when granny or whoever says ooooh yes you’ve got the same name haven’t you!

William and Kate did it. George's middle name is Louis. It's fine. How many people know your children's middle names anyway?

Goodness I hope you are not my sister in law. My sons first name is the same as her sons middle name. Never occurred to me in a million years this would be an issue. Didn’t even think about it. My sisters middle name is the same as my cousins first name (sister older) again never an issue.

I knew a family with 5 or 6 children and each child after the first had the previous child’s name as a second name. The children seemed to love the idea and it acted a a bond in what was a very close family. T

It’s fine imo. Might be a bit unimaginative but they will be independent adults and move in circles where people won’t know their sister’s middle name.

but how would you explain this to your DDs? Would you have a good explanation?

As for your DGP not having had middle names: how about your DP? Or his DGP?

As a middle name?

It's fine.

My daughter shares my middle name. If I had another daughter I would also give her the same middle name because I wouldn't want her to be the only one without it.

I wouldn't, it makes it really obvious that it's your second choice name. Pick one that's special just for this baby, rather than one that you didn't quite like enough last time, but will do now.

It was good enough for Prince Louis!

To be honest middle names are really not used in everyday life and most people wont know what they are.

It's logical that you give your children the names you like best as first and middle names. My view was that I might not have another child the same sex so I might as well use up the favourite names. My second child was the other sex so it never cropped up if I might reuse a middle name.

Lots of people in my extended family have the same middle names and a few have the same first name.

I wouldn’t. Have another little think

Just to clarify my daughters middle name is Gwen after my granny (Gwendoline) we don’t know gender of this baby and both like Gwendoline as a first name husband wasn’t keen first time around but as it goes so nicely with our sons first name think it fits nicely if this baby was a girl.
those that commented that it’s not special I get where you are coming from if we were using Gwen instead of Gwendoline.
together with my husband we have 5 kids this is number 6 he has already used his grandads name as his first sons middle name and has had no contact with his other grandparents so using one of their names isn’t an option for us as they aren’t the type of people he wishes to honour.
his son Charlie Robin (after his grandad)
his daughter Phoebe May (the month my husband is born)
my daughter Darcey Rose (my granny and Grandads favourite flower)
our Twins Sagely Gwen (after my granny) & Shepherd Oakes (my grandads favourite tree)

for reusing names within family my sons middle name is Oakes 2 months later my sister had a little boy and named him Oakley that was his name from around 20 weeks in to her pregnancy and I wouldn’t drama of asking her to have changed his name or have any sort of issue with it (we both kept names a secret and we did originally have Oakley picked for my sons name thankfully we changed it 2 weeks before I had him and his twin sister)
thank you for all your comments think myself and my husband will think of it but feel it is still a contender because it has so much meaning plus how many Gwendoline’s do you know!

It's a middle name, it's totally fine. As it's a family name the strange ownership thing some people talk about on mumsnet isn't an issue - they both got it from their great granny, that's a lovely link for them.

I am <<first Name>> Elizabeth Ann and my younger sister is Ann Elizabeth. My brothers are Arthur Henry and Henry Arthur James. Clearly, no imagination when it came to names!

I think Gwendoline wouldn't be perfectly fine for your new babies first name. I don't see the issue at all. It's a nice name
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