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If DC's name is picked from both parents list

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MistyF · 21/03/2025 17:15

Let's talk about hypothetical situation.
You and DP can't agree on name. DP has one favorite, you the other name. DP suggest you use one name as first name and other name as middle name. You agree to idea, but DP wants his favorite as first name - meaning DC will mostly be called by his first name by default.
Would you accept to this terms? And would you rather your pick gets as first name over your partners?

This is a thing in USA, if both parents can't agree to the name before baby is born and before the deadline, they can end up in court - court then decides on name, but standard practice is to use both parents picks to create first+middle+surname.

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crumpet · 21/03/2025 17:19

Seriously, court? Over a name? We are doomed…

I struggle to believe that two adults do not know how to compromise over a name. Yes it may be that neither ends up with their favourite name, but they’d still end up with a perfectly good name that both parents like.

MistyF · 21/03/2025 17:24

crumpet · 21/03/2025 17:19

Seriously, court? Over a name? We are doomed…

I struggle to believe that two adults do not know how to compromise over a name. Yes it may be that neither ends up with their favourite name, but they’d still end up with a perfectly good name that both parents like.

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There was one case a decade ago.

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username462025 · 21/03/2025 17:43

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Almahart · 21/03/2025 17:45

Keep looking

Happyinarcon · 21/03/2025 17:50

Mum gets to choose. To make up for 20 hours of back to back labour

MistyF · 21/03/2025 18:00

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I'm sorry, I didn't explain good enough.
This is 'what ifs' thread - would posters on mumsnet be OK if partner's choice of a name is middle name or first name (but baby gets your choice as first or middle). How hard would you push for your choice be first name and would you accept partners choice as a middle.
We have agreed to name, but are currently TTC.

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ginasevern · 21/03/2025 18:01

One court case a decade ago does not make it "a thing".

DameEdnaAverage2 · 21/03/2025 18:10

Nah, I'm naming it, end of story. If I am carrying it around inside me for the best part of a year, with the risk of stretch marks, saggy tits, sickness, complications and, at the end, a fanny that feels like it's been put through a shredder, you best believe the kids getting the name I chose! Any debate and he won't even get the middle name.

Wannabedisneyprincess · 21/03/2025 18:19

With our DD I had a name I loved but my DH was very against, we had already agreed to using a family name on my side as her middle name and while I wouldn’t say I loved the name we decided on, it was DHs suggestion, she totally wouldn’t have suited the name that I had picked

when we had DS I picked his name and told DH that there was no wiggle room if he didn’t like it, luckily he was happy with it and we used a family name from DH side as DS middle name

Babyybabyyy · 21/03/2025 18:23

DP agreed that I got to choose our dd’s name because I had to go through pregnancy and childbirth.

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Ringiooo · 21/03/2025 23:46

We compromised on names for both of ours. Neither of us got our “top pick” but we chose names we were both happy with. I got more of a say on middle names though since I was happy for them to have his surname (we are married but I kept my own name).

user1492757084 · 23/03/2025 12:54

If the surname is from one partner and both parents like each other's first choice, the deciding vote goes to the parent whose surname is not used.

Easterbunnygettingsorted · 23/03/2025 13:00

The one who goes through labour gets the final say... I mean what real effort did pregnancy give him?

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