Is it crazy to give my surname as a middle name?

[baltimore97]

Since naming our first DD two years ago, DH has insisted that it was a silly idea to give her my surname as her last middle name. I did not take my husband's name when we married, and the two names sound ridiculous when put together in a double-barrelled surname. However, I wanted DD to have my name somewhere in the mix.

DD2 arrived 10 days ago, and we are now having the whole discussion all over again. I want her to have my surname as her last middle name, but DH is resisting.

Has anyone else done this? Can you help me prove to DH that my naming practices are not totally outlandish!

Depends purely on the potential hilarity of your surname, b97 (eg it isn't anything like Shufflebottom, is it?)

FWIW, DH has his mother's maiden name as his middle name - it's not intrinsically funny but caused much sniggering at our wedding.

I've done this for both of mine

DH has his mother's surname as a middle name. Not a problem.

My dh has his mother's surname as a middle name. Not been a problem in itself but it confounded dh's hatred of his unusual first name as a teenager in that his second name was equally odd so not really an alternative iyswim

Very common in the US to give the mother's last name as a middle name. In fact, some people thought it was strange I didn't.

it used to be fashionable years ago (18th/19th century) to give kids their mothers maiden name as a first name if it was an 'important' family.

Perfectly reasonable thing to do - I knew a girl at school whose middle name was Livingstone (her mother's maiden name).

It also gives dd an obvious link with her cousins, who all have the same middle name - means a lot to her as an only child

My 3 DC all have my surname as a second middle name, and they love sharing a middle name and a surname. I would be really sad now if we hadn't decided to do it, as they have a different surname to me.

i think its a great idea and although im married to dh so and we all share his name-my surname was more unusual and there isnt many left so i wanted to do what your saying but dh fault it was silly

We did exactly the same. Didn't double-barrel as that would make it more difficult for DD when she learns to write her name so she has four names. Don't see the issue. It will generally just be used as an initial, surely?

I haven't done it but I rather wish that I had-seems very sensible.

I took DH's name when I married, but both DC have my maiden name as second surname. Happily, its a first name/surname type name, and is even unisex as a first name...but I would have done it regardless.

My brother has our grandmother's maiden name as his 3rd name because it died out with my granny and her sister.
I am double-barrelled but we were a bit steamrollered into single surname for our kids (we live in Poland where bureaucracy is gone mad and you have to choose your kids' surnames when your marriage papers are being drawn up!!). I later mega-regretted this as I have my Mum's maiden name (Taylor) as my surname and that too dies out with my generation, so my DD2 has that name as her middle name.
We could have changed their surnames but their original surname is stuck with them for life anyway (on practically everything you have to give all previous surnames). Aha and the other bureaucratic quirk here is that you can only give 2 first names!! And only if one parent is foreign can you have a name that's not "Polish". All girls' names have to end in -a, for instance, and you can't give surnames as first names (so with DD2 we had a mega-fight on 2 counts - hats off to DH for sorting that one out).

Of course not! We gave dd my surname as a middle name (I also kept it as a middle name). It's very very common practice in Scotland btw, but can seem a little strange to the english.

We actually live in Scotland (but are not Scots ourselves), so we would just be continuing the custom.

Will show DH the thread to convince him!

DS1 has my maiden anme, was a problem when we realised we should have double barrelled it to normalise dh's surname which i took (lovely on girls, pants for boys) but other than that REALLY glad I did it s it meant a lot to Dad (who had girls, all of whom married and took new names)

I am Scottish...personally, my mum did this with me and I have always hated my middle name and wanted a "normal" type middle name, but maybe thats just me!!

We did this - we aren't married and I wanted DD to have my surname as part of her name, so she is 'DD middlename myname hisname'.

i'm scots too btw!

i have brown as a middle name, my birth mother was scottish but her maiden name wasn't brown so i don't know where it is from.

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Yep - I did this. Apols if this has been mentioned higher up the thread (rushing to type before feeding dd) but it can really help when travelling to have your surname in your children's passports if you're on your own with them and didn't take dh's name on marriage.

We gave our dd my surname as her third middle name. So when immigration officials wonder if i'm trying to steal smuggle her through the borders, I can point to my surname in her passport.