Choosing a middle name

[Zellie1027]

Wondering what people's thoughts are on middle names...

My first little girl has my mum's name as her middle name. My mum passed away about 10 years ago so it's very meaningful to me.

We are now having a second little girl. I'm stuck with her middle name. I want her to have something meaningful too but we honestly don't have any other name, apart from my mum's middle name, that has meaning but I don't feel it goes with our chosen name (which is Millie, and the middle name would be Mary, so Millie Mary).

So it's either:
No middle name (anyone have children where one has a middle name and the other doesn't?)
A random middle name (at least we would like how it sounds but no meaning)
Or Mary (meaningful but I'm not sure it sounds right)

I am totally aware I am fully overthinking this (it's a particularly good skill of mine!). I'm 37 weeks now and on maternity leave so nothing else to occupy my mind.

Please help me with your thoughts!

Another vote for Millie Mary!

Milly Magdalena

How about Amelia Mary or Emilia Mary - flows better and could still be known as Millie?

Millie Mary is admittedly a slight tongue twister but it’s not a big deal (it’s not as if you are hyphenating it so people will be saying it all the time). Plus I think it’ll sound less so once you add the surname too - as it’s likely that if she’s telling people her middle name then she’ll be saying all 3 together ie. at the bank, doctors etc.

Tbh personally I think it’s more important to try treat siblings equally as much as possible, even with something as relatively meaningless/minor to some people as a middle name. So if there are no other family names in your or DH’s family that you feel you could use then I’d stick with Mary - imo it’s really nice to use a name for the middle that links to your family tree.

Imo the greater issue is people regularly misspelling Millie - I had to double check your OP as I initially wrote Milly 🤦‍♀️

I actually have a very similar situation- 2 year old has the male version of his grandmother's name who passed away years before he was born.
We are now expecting another boy and for various don't have any other names lined up that carry the same meaning, which does bother me a bit.
However, I'm still planning on giving him a middle name for a few reasons

• I can't get my head around one sibling having an additional name to the other for some reason
• both me and my parents just have middle names that were chosen purely because parents liked them and have no familiar connection at all, so the idea that middle names must have some kind of family link is a bit alien to me
• I always enjoyed having a middle name myself and I remember at primary school there being a girl in the class with no middle name who was so bothered by it her parents ended up adding one for her officially for her 10th birthday!

But that's just me, on the other hand my partner has no middle name and is not bothered by it in the slightest and would prefer our baby not to have one either

Plan is just to pick a middle name we both like the sound and meaning off

Sorry OP, all I can hear with Millie Mary is 'Mother Mary'

I don't agree with a few posters on this thread, there is no requirement for a meaningful middle name - yes it's lovely if you have a name you want to honour but I don't think you should be scraping around trying to find one if there isn't one you obviously want to use

They're are no meaningful middle names in my family for at least 3 generations that I can think of. It's just a nice 'bonus name' which flows lovely with the first and surnames.

A full name should flow together (in my opinion) whether it's a family name or a random name - and I'd sooner go for the so called filler names like Rose and Grace etc if it sounded right than a random combo of names that really didn't go together

What about the name of a long term friend? How about a feminine form of a male family member?

Millie Mary is just a bit awkward to me, also makes me think of Millie Molly Mandy.

Mary is adorable!
Have you thought of calling her Mary?
Or a derivation of Mary - Mae, Maisie, Molly

Options:
Camilla Mary - Millie - my favourite
Mary Camilla - Mary, Millie or Molly - my favourite
Mary Matilda - Millie
Mary Ellen - Millie or Melly
Mary Jillian - Millie
Amelia Mary - Millie
Mary Cecily - Millie
Maisie Gabrielle