Would you use a second cousins name for your baby?

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32 weeks and really struggling for a name for our second boy. I have a cousin with an 18 year old son whose name I've always loved but just assumed it was off the cards since it's in the family. To be clear I never see these relatives and don't have a relationship aside from pleasantries at family gatherings which is rare anyway, it's been years since I seen. My mum however is very close to her sister (my aunt, who is the grandmother of the 18 year old) and sees her all the time so it's not like they are totally distant. Would you use a family name or would you totally write it off?

No, I don't like my second cousins name

Second cousin is the child of your parents cousin - to be honest I wouldn't even know what all their names were.

Or do you mean first cousin once removed - your cousin's children ? DH's mum was one of about 8 children and so was his dad, so he had about 35 cousins, so he has about 70 first cousin once removeds - imagine if we couldn't have used any of those names!

In conclusion yes, yes I would.

No I wouldn't but I see my cousins and their kids fairly often (once or twice a year). We are only a small family as well, I might feel different if there were loads of us!

Something similar - Emma/Emmeline, Bella/Isobel, Luca/Lucas for example - I don't think is too bad but not the exact same name

Yes I would.. You hardly ever see them and there is a big age gap. Its not going to be a problem. Don't miss out on the name you love because of this

Sorry I meant my first cousins son!

My cousin did this (named her baby the same thing as my baby). It's not a problem . I haven't seen her in years!

Yes, a few in my family have the same name. There is a family name most of the boys use somewhere too, for middle or first name.
go for it.

I have done this, without even thinking about it or registering it! My cousin lives abroad so consequently I've only met his now adult son a few times. Five years ago I gave my son the same name. Didn't enter my head for it to be an issue. No one in my family (mum and aunt included) have said anything or seemingly even noted it

Personally no as we’re all quite close - there’s one name in particular that I absolutely love but it just wouldn’t feel right to use it.

We used my DP’s cousin’s name. It was also an uncle’s name and a grandparent’s. We just liked it. Why would you write off a name just because someone else has it?

This has happened a few times in my family (big family and clearly similar taste in names!). No one’s ever commented on it, not a big deal at all I don’t think.

I don’t even know what my cousins’ children are called. In fact, I don’t know the name of every cousin.

I think if you spent a lot of time together it might be off limits, but it doesn’t sound like you do?

Yes, with the possible exception of a very unusual name.

We are Greek.. Have you seen my big fat Greek wedding? Everyone has the same name.. Not a problem at all! 😂

My mum’s first cousins daughter has the same name as me so they obviously thought it was ok 😅 it’s not a common name and not a family name either!

I’ve only met her a few times so not really an issue.

I loved my cousin’s child’s name and didn’t use it because I didn’t think I should, but we do see them fairly often and the kids are similar ages. In your situation I think it’s fine and if my cousin used one of my children’s names I’d probably take it as a compliment!

I see my first cousin once removed occasionally socially and our kids are the same age so I personally wouldn't.

But in your circumstances, not having a relationship with that part of the family, I would. Only thing is that your gramdma will have 2 great grand kids with the same name but that's not the end of the world.

My cousin used my daughter’s name. Old, feminine, not often used but there is always one around, if you know what I mean.

There is nearly 8 years between them, I think.
There is nearly a continent between them.

They knew what they were doing, I assume, so I took it as a compliment to my daughter (we had holidayed with them once).

I think it was more common in previous generations. My Dad and his first cousin shared the same name and they were both named after older family members. My Uncle, Grandad and Great Grandad also had the same name.

I think honouring an older family member is Ok. Not sure I would use it if the cousins were part of the same generation. There are so many good names out there, there's no need to replicate anyone else's name.

3 of my cousins used the same name for one of their children. My grandmother was great-grandmother to 3 with the same name. It wasn't an issue. It's a common name but not a 'family' one.

On the other side of the family, two of my cousins used the same name for their child, and that was more noticeable because the name is fairly unusual.

A few cousins named a DC with a name of their own cousin.

I know someone who called her child her sister's name. That's a bit weird but I know plenty of Sarahs who have a SIL called Sarah and a few Johns with a BIL called John.

I think it's fine. My cousin's name was on our shortlist for DD (and a different cousin's name was on our shortlist if she'd been a DS!). I would have asked my cousin first though if she minded if that's the name we'd ultimately settled on.

Wouldn't do it if I see them. If you are very distant and have no relationship then it doesn't matter.

I would use it, especially if they have different surnames.

I called my child my cousin’s name. Middle name was another cousin’s name. They were family names before that anyway.

I didn't use a name because of a similar situation and now I regret it.

I'm due to have another and if it had been the same sex as last time I would have used it this time.

It's different if they are close to you but they could be flattered with that age difference as you could say they are named after them. I share a middle name with 5 of my first cousins. Some others do too.

Use the name you love- don't regret it like I did.

Congratulations OP