Why do ppl get upset when

[branflake81]

their children's names are criticised on MN?

Surely everyone has a right to an opinion.

And besides, it seems that most people want their kid to be the only one with their name. If everyone else hates the name, they will be!

Names are a tricky subject that people take personally. I agree that not everyone can like every name. People have differant associations with names. For me, I am going to choose a fairly classic name so hopefully is unlikely to be hated by people even if it wouldn't be their choice. If you choose a more original name it is more likely to get a more extreme reaction.

The trouble is that secretly you want other people to endorse your choice (I know I do) so even though I wouldn't name my baby based on what was suggested in a forum, it gives an idea as to how that child will be thought of and so may influence me if the reaction was stong.

(sorry, early morning pregnant ramble!)

I really couldn't give a flying monkeys what people think of my childrens names.

Regardless of what you call them there will be always one child that finds something funny about their name.

Maybe they feel they haven't made totally the right decision. I think if you are 100% certain that you made the right choice, then what other people think will roll off your back.

I'm interested in what the larger population think of my children's names. But it's in a detached way. I want to know if the names are considered unfashionable, too popular, too pretentious...... ?? It's the kind of information you'd never get from asking somebody because they just won't say!!

Personally I really don't care if people criticise my children's names. I always assume their children must be called something I wouldn't like.

I love Hatrick's children's names btw! She has excellent taste. Taste very much like my own

I think some people are a tad insentive though, it would maybe be nicer to say

its not to their taste?!?!?

am not too bothered, according to MN, I have given one girl a common and boring name and the other a chav (word I HATE) name

goodness knows what I'll come up with this time then lol

Yeah, I don't think it's so much the criticism per se as the way it's done. Someone saying "I don't like X" is one thing, but someone saying "X is a hideous name that only complete brainless wankers would give their child" can often offend.

Although now that I think about it, who likes Ecks for a boy?

Don't particularly like it when my oldest sons name is brought up as an example of "is this made up or real", in quite a derogatory way. Especially as I wasn't even posting on the thread in question. If it wasn't for the fact the the thread in question is about 1 month old (and I only discovered this yesterday) I would bring it up on there.

FWIW - all my childrens names ARE real names, not made up, are the 100% correct for their sex (so the person who knew a girl with the same name should be asking her friend why they gave their DD a boys name) and are from their fathers country of birth.

Because your children's names are pretty much the most public demonstration of your taste that you'll ever make.

Your choice of cars, clothes, house etc are all constrained by money, but your children's names are the unfettered representation of who you think you are.

When someone says your child's name is pretentious, stupid or chavvy, they're calling you pretentious, stupid or chavvy.

i think often it's the way they are criticized. like, if op asks "do you think xyz sounds ok with my surname" or something like this and then someone comes along and says "oh what a horrendous name ffs why would you do that to your child you must be crazy" etc etc... i think that's pretty out of order as you're not even answering original question.

but if op asks "do you like the name xyz" then they're fair game i think...

often i also find that some people criticize foreign names jsut out of ignorance, whcih always slightly winds me up. but then again, you have to be ready for this reaction when posting on this forum i suppose!

People spend so much time carefully choosing a name, they can feel hurt when someone criticises it so vehemently. I will NEVER ask opinions on here for the name of my (unborn) baby!

My own name was very unique when I was growing up, posh even, but nowadays it has appeared in most soap operas and is common as muck.

It has been described as "chav" on here.

I agree with MamaG - I never told anyone what my dc's names were to be until after the births.