Changing 4 month old name

[Bingoismynamoo]

Our baby is 4 months old and I still don’t feel sure about the name… it’s an old French name that’s becoming more popular but I’ve had some really negative reactions (people screwing up their faces etc) and I keep avoiding using it, saying ’the baby’ or using nicknames… will I get over it or should I change the name?

Do you like his name?

I’ve found it hard to get used to my baby’s name too, she’s 14w old. Objectively I love the name but it’s feels too “big” for such a little thing. My friend was similar with her DD but she grew into it and it’s perfect now so hoping my DD will be the same!

Do you have another name in mind that you love and would feel happy calling your baby? I think it’s one of those decisions with no right or wrong answer - it’s a gut instinct thing - if you think about changing the name does it make you feel happier inside or stressed?

I don’t have a name I like better but I do mull over other names and think they would have been better, but not enough to definitely say that’s what I’d like to change it to… I feel so silly feeling like this but I just can’t shake it

Many posts here on this board about changing the name of a baby/toddler.
Do a search, to read some discussions about this topic.

But in this case... You chose the name of your child for a reason.
Never mind what other people think about it!
I don't know the name of your baby, but if it is an old French name, I'm sure it's a lovely name.

whatever name you give there will be someone who doesn’t like it / has an association with someone they didn’t like or get along with. In reality it doesn’t matter what others think, you chose the name because you liked it, if your only reason to want to change it is because of the reaction of a few don’t -others will like it and I’m sure there will be some names you would say you don’t like

Unless you have a preferred one then stick with this because you chose it presumably as you loved it. If there's one you wish you'd chosen then change it. Your baby is so tiny and will hopefully live until 80+ so this is a blink in their lifetime.

A good friend changed her twins names when they were about 6 months old . I genuinely cannot remember their original names. Just do it whilst the child is young.X

Under a year old it's easy to change on the birth certificate

If you want to then change it. But don't do it just set because of other people's opinions. Names are very subjective and they'll always be someone who doesn't like a name.

Is it Hugo?

This sort of thread comes up regularly, @Bingoismynamoo .
Look for threads like 'name regret' or scroll down a bit and there should be some links to similar threads. Here's one I posted on a few days ago:
Changing baby first name- deed poll vs registrar | Mumsnet

I think that the reaction you get is because people are not familiar with the name, not because they don't like it.

Ignore other people, and bear in mind that it often takes ages to stop calling your new baby ‘the baby’ or their in utero nickname. If you can’t think of a name you like better, then stick with what you have?

Ignore people's reaction it's rude of them to screw their faces up.

The key here is how you like the name.

When we announced ds name (Conrad) my mothers reaction was.." That's horrific" ffw 12 years and she told me
"I always liked the name Conrad it's such a good strong name"
It had become her grandson whom she loved and the name now had positive associations.

(I never truly did forgive her that original comment - it hurt- but it was very like my mother)

If you love the name he will grow into it.

@Bingoismynamoo may I ask you what you decided to do?

Oops ZOMBIE

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I haven’t changed it yet but I’m still unhappy with the name and say ‘the baby’ or other nicknames… I still slightly cringe when I hear other people use the name instead of saying baby or little one…. i know i need to either accept it or change it but im a mess about deciding either way 😞

It's three months old not three years!

I don’t understand