Can I use Ivy?

[Yesso]

I really love Ivy but my name is Holly , is it THAT bad? Husband thinks I’m over thinking but I had already discounted any flower names for obvious reasons. I can’t use it can I?

It's a lovely name and the connection with your name is quite sweet. I agree with your husband and you should use it if you both really want to.

Yes, you can use Ivy for your daughter (but maybe not a son!).

I think it's cute. Why can't you use any flower names? There aren't any rules, lots of opinions of course, but no rules, you can both have flower/plant names if you want too. You might get the odd laugh from the odd idiot, but mostly people will either not notice or it'll give them a nice smile.

I wouldn't even have got the connection really just hearing Holly and Mr Yesso have little Ivy.
Use it, it's a lovely name.

Yes, use it!

I think it's a lovely name and no reason you shouldn't use it.
But, I do now have the song going round my head so the association will be there. If you don't want anyone to comment then maybe don't use it.

Agreed

I agree the connection is fine. The only question is whether you want a connection or not, because a portion of people will notice and some of those will comment.

Sorry, I immediately started singing 'the holly and the ivy'

I couldn't use it

It’s lovely.

And when people do this, just say "Yes! I know! We couldn't resist it!" With an enormous smile. :)

It’s a lovely name, and your child is not attached to you - she is her own person in her own right and one day she will live independently, maybe even far away from you, and it won’t matter.
But…until that comes you do have to be prepared that people will make jokes and you can’t be annoyed or irritable about it even if you hear it a million times. Let’s be honest - it’s funny 🤣

Use it! I think it's absolutely fine, infact sweet!

That's quite funny! Cute though!. Nice name tbf.

Is your husband called Robin?

If it was for a sister I'd say no but mum and daughter imo is ok.

I think any other flower name would be fine, but for those few years at baby groups it will be Holly & Ivy almost sounds like a pub.

Beyond that your names won't really be said together.

I do think people will notice the connection but it's quite sweet really so I wouldn't let that hold you back.

I think it's lovely and the song connection is sweet.

"This is Holly and her daughter Ivy."
Sounds lovely!

Beautiful names.

I think it's fine. The Christmas carol did come to mind, but it probably wouldn't have if I hadn't read your post first.

While the carol instantly came to mind, I think in RL many people introduce their kids names first and then themselves (often only when prompted because once you are a parent, you become secondary and will just be “Ivy’s Mum” to many people 🤣). So “This is Ivy” said regularly, “Oh yeah, I’m Holly” - usually only when asked imo. So maybe not as obvious a connection to people when said the other way around?

Like pp, I also don’t see why flower names have to be off the table? (unless it’s just that you dislike them).

I would hate to be called Ivy, I think it's a very depressing girl name.

I think it's a lovely connection actually! Plus it reminds me of a book I had as a child called The Story of Holly and Ivy about a girl called Ivy who gets a doll called Holly for Christmas .. you could see if it's still in print 🌲

I’m with your husband. I think it’s fine! If anything, it’s a nice association with a jolly festive somg, so don’t let that put you off if you like the name. Some people will notice but I don’t think you’ll care. I barely ever say my name and my daughter’s name together as in “we are Shoop and Doop”, so it might not stand out as much as you’d think.