Cassandra

[cinammonfishsticks]

Thought we'd found our perfect name, but made the mistake of saying it to close family and it's gone down like a sack of shit (lesson learned!) No negative comments but just nods and then no mention and it's really put me off!

What are your thoughts on Cassandra? I'm more than aware the tragic connotations but in my opinion so many literary and mythological female names have sad endings. I think it's so pretty and love nn Cassie.

Any alternatives with similar vibes too?

I've got a beautiful friend called Cassie (Cassandra) so for me it conjures up lovely, positive associations .

I just think of only fools and horses

I don’t dislike it, but for me it has vibes of my parents names era. They used to like Only Fools and Horses and one of the characters on there was called it. My mum had friends called Cassie and Sandra (think the former was my godmother, but has long been forgotten!).

Same, that's the first time I heard the name growing up (I'm in my 20s but watched OFAH growing up) however I always thought it was a very pretty name and therefore I would say go for it and tbh I think your family have been unkind making those comments.

Yep only fools and horses … I can hear Rodney saying it now

It’s forever Del Boy and Rodney - also sounds too much like Sandra with all those 70s/80s vibes. I’m aware that’s showing my age but it does spoil it for me.

I have a friend with the name. It really suits her. She is Cass. Never Cassie.
I do love Cassie though.

It’s your baby so name her what you like.

I’m not keen on it because of nicknames and it’s not a name I’d choose. The Only Fools and Horses reference didn’t spring to mind.

I love it, it was on my potential list of names, but I love the connection to Only Fools and Horses! Cassandra feels 90s and retro and Cassie feels modern and cool, I love names that can be used in different ways.

Sounds like a posh girl's name to me, a la Only Fools and Horses! But I do like it.

An alternative could be Cassia?

I think it's a lovely name and do like nn Cassie
As she grows up the Only Fools and Horses reference will become less - it's probably only over 50s now who know it

Alternatives starting Cas:

Cassiopeia
Cassia/Casia/Casiah
Cassidy
Cashona/Cashonea/Cashonya
Cassiana
Casilde
Cassarah
Cassiele/Cassiela

I knew a Clarissa who was Cassie if you’re after alternatives.

Apart from the mythological connotations, yes, I think of Only Fools and Horses too.

It is a beautiful name, though.

I like it. None of the associations are too off-putting IMO. The OFAH character represented success, positivity, chic, class - basically everything the Trotters aspired to but had difficulty achieving, 'with hilarious results'. She was a 'yuppy' who was portrayed as a kind and sympathetic character, not ruthless or arrogant like Loadsamoney or whatever.

Homer's Cassandra is far from an unsympathetic character too - a fearless truth teller under impossible circumstances. And Cassie is very sweet.

I love Cassie, Cassandra is ok but sounds a little pretentious to my ear, especially when said by Rodney. Did you say to your relatives you'd be shortening it to Cassie? They might go for it more then.

Thank you - I agree with all, and really don't think her peers will be aware of the OFAH reference. I'm 32 and never watched it.

When I think of all my friends' and family's baby name choices, there are very few I actively like and love, but they love them so would never comment or react negatively. So do I just need to get over their reaction and go with it?

I'd go for Cassie.

You don’t need to get over it - they do! My family didn’t like my baby name but once they met the baby they got to like his name :)
Cassie is lovely. Don’t change it.

@jackstini very true. OFAH is boomer humour - nothing wrong with that (generally speaking) but it speaks to the preoccupations of that generation. I liked it as a kid (am 47 now) but was aware that it was my DF's "thing" and the Trotters reflected the world he grew up in. My DC (aged 23 and under) have almost certainly never heard of it and wouldn't understand the humour at all. I think you could say the same about most sitcoms of the era - some of them were very good, but the humour is all quite specific to a certain generation/class/region to have any kind of evergreen universal appeal.

@cinammonfishsticks

"I agree with all, and really don't think her peers will be aware of the OFAH reference. I'm 32 and never watched it."

I'm younger than you and did watch it but it doesn't matter even if children do recognise is totally agree with what a previous poster said about how OFAH presented the character in a good way so it's no bad thing. It's a great name.

Totally - and I agree with a pp that they are the ones who need to get over it! Classical names are beautiful and timeless, and are having a long overdue revival.

Love Cassandra, great name, definitely go for it. I like lots of mythology names, Artemis, Athena etc.

Also just turned 30 and never watched OFAH. Can’t imagine her peer group is going to be familiar with it!

Yes, I would say so.
I'm not even going to tell family our choices this time round as I know nothing will please everyone and I found all the opinions mental last time.

It's not like it's a totally bizarre, made up name that will see her getting bullied at school. It's a lovely, classic name which will be to some people's taste but not others. That's the same with most names.

If you and your partner love it then that's perfect.

Love it!

Your family will get over it - it may not be their first choice but she’s not their baby, plus it’s hardly a ridiculous name!

And Rodney It's a little baby !!!