2 nieces, same name?

[BlueAjah]

Hi all,

I'm currently ttc and have, for years, had my heart set on a specific girl name, however I've found out about 6 months ago, my brothers soon to be SIL has a daughter named this already.

Apart from my brother, my side of the family have practically nothing to do with the soon to be IL family. Would this be weird? He'd potentially end up with 2 nieces with the same name 🤔

TIA

It’s fine

Call your child what you like. We have two nieces with the same name and it’s not a problem.

Your brother's in-laws? I wouldn't consider that to be an issue at all.

Thank you ☺️ I kinda thought I wouldn't be seen as an issue but I tend to overthink these things 😂 hence the thinking about it while ttc!

*edit - it wouldn't be seen as an issue

As above not an issue at all

I wouldn’t do it.

Please can I ask why not? Genuinely interested in hearing different opinions

Complete non issue. It's on a par with having the same name as a classmate imo.

Are you close? Spending a lot of time together? If so wouldn't do it. If not. No problem.

Would it be your children’s cousin’s half sister with this name. Or the children’s cousin’s cousin from their other parent. Just struggling to get my head around the relationship. I wouldn’t worry about this now. You might never have a daughter. If you do, you might end up feeling that actually that name isn’t right for her. It’s not urgent or a now problem, so I’d keep the name on your list and see what happens in the future.

It's not an issue at all. You'll probably never even meet these people, and if you do, not a single person would care.

@toastofthetown it's my brothers niece by marriage (his fiancée's sister has the daughter) and mine would be niece by blood

Agree, I could totally go off it or only have boys lol, I'm a worrier and don't like to instigate any drama.

I've only met the SIL as of the weekend, brother and fiancée have been together for 8 years but never interacted with them before

I wouldn’t be comfortable copying a name already in the family. In my family there are about 20 cousins with 18 children between them. Everyone has their own unique name within the family.

@StormingNorman out of interest, how far would you go with that? This is the child's cousin's cousin, so they don't share grandparents or great grandparents. Would you rule out names of people like second cousins? Your sibling's sibling's or parent's in law?

(I hope this doesn't come across like a criticism, I'm genuinely just interested in what names you'd rule out)

For that relationship I’d have no trouble using the name. I know that my sister’s brother and sister in law have the same top boys name as me, and it doesn’t change my plan to use it if I have a boy (whether or not the other family do). My sister just finds it funny that we’ve landed on the same name.

It’s fine. ….there are 15 neices and nephews in my family….2 girls are called the same name ( slight difference in spelling)…..2 boys have the exact same name ( family name) …..it’s never been an issue

If we actually know the person in the family, we don’t use the name. So if the two nieces are never going to meet then it’s fine. If they’ll be seeing each other at family occasions, I would go with a different name.

But in this case the person is not in OPs family. It is her brother's sister in law's child The child wouldn't be related to OPs child

Wouldn’t be an issue for me, I come from a big family and family names are popular. Nobody in my family would blink an eye if 2 people liked the same name.

The children won't even be related so this wouldn't even be a concern for me. Mind you, I have two male cousins with the same name and two female cousins who technically have the same first name, but one goes by her middle name. All on the same side of the family so they're also related to each other.