Maiden name as middle name for baby - does this help when travelling with baby?

[PinkPomelo]

I've decided to add my maiden name as a middle name for my baby. I've read that some people have been stopped before for having a different surname to their baby, does anyone know if having it as a forename would help this situation?

People aren’t simply stopped because they have different names

people are stopped because they are more cautious nowadays about child abduction

I’ve been stopped more travelling with my younger children, who I share a name with, than I was with my now adult children who have a different name.

Its nothing to do with different surnames. You're supposed to have permission from everyone with parental responsibility to take a child abroad so it would be an issue whether the surnames matched or not.

A lot of the females in my family dropped their middle name and used their maiden name as a middle name when they got married.

Just bring their birth certificate and it's a non issue? That's what I do with my two but I've never been questioned

@HowcanIhelp123 this is exactly what we did, too!

Yep and he/she may also give it to their own child one day as a first or middle name.

@HowcanIhelp123 @greglet so it's double barrelled without a hyphen? Do they use both names at school etc?

The baby doesn't have to have the father's surname. From your other thread, your husband is OK about changing the surname,

I'd change the baby's name to Firstname DHsurname Pomelo and be done with it.

The only issue is that the BC will show the old name. I don't think that's a big issue.
I have only shown my birth certificate to anyone about 3 times in my life.

In Scotland they actually issue a completely new birth certificate. I must be the only person in this pickle 😂 I like how frank you are @KirstenBlest thanks!! I reckon its the only solution I'll be happy with. Took the scenic route but got there in the end. I didn't actually want to give baby a double barrell name but totally get why people do now

@PinkPomelo , I'm not a fan of double-barrelled surnames. They often seem a bit clunky. (e.g. Richards-Thompson or something)

Having said that, I know someone whose DC has a double-barrelled surname and I like it. The DM's maiden name was unusual and pleasant sounding, and the father's name is extremely common. The mother had double-barrelled on marriage. The combined syllable is only 3 syllables and it flows.
(think Dina Asher-Smith type name)

I'm being blunt because on your other thread you say your DH is OK about it, and it's obviously bugging you, so let your nice surname continue.
Do it while the DC is less than 12 months old.

(apologies to any Richards-Thompsons reading)

No, you are not the only one in a pickle with naming a baby. They come up frequently.
It's not trivial because a name is your 'brand'.

I forgot: Does the baby's first name go with your surname?

I think Pamela Pomelo might be too much

@PinkPomelo Yep, no hyphen. DS is only a toddler still but at nursery he generally goes by his second surname, which is my husband's name.

E.g. He's legally John Baker Kingsley but generally known as John Kingsley.

@KirstenBlest my name is one syllable too so it's very short. In fact the whole 4 names together is very nice, the main reason I didn't do it was it's just a faff saying it on the phone etc when double barrelled. But I now realise it's a faff that's worth it so you feel connected. Steep learning curve this parenting!

You mean you're not really called Pink Louise Pomelo. How disappointing!

If the name will be something like Isla Skye Blair Booth instead of Isla Skye Blair, go with it.

We double barelled and our surname is 6 syllables. It's never been a problem and we've been married over a decade now. DH has two middle names as well and we've given our kids 2 middle names too. Sure the whole thing is long on forms but how often does anyone complete things like that anyway? My eldest learned to write her first name and surname quickly in reception without issue despite having what I assume will be one of the longest in her class.

My DC have my DH's surname , I did not change my name. I never had a problem travelling with DC without DH. They are now adults, if things have changed I would opt for an easy life and make sure that the DC have both names.If I weren't married I would never give my child my partner's surname and in this day and age I am no longer convinced that I would agree to DH's surname for the DC. I know that DD will keep her name for her DC if she has any.it is a conundrum as double barrelling is cumbersome.

Yes I think it does make a difference. I've travelled on my own with the kids many times. Never been stopped. They have my name as a middle name.

@KirstenBlest turns our if you change the surname, the original is always noted on the birth certificate. I don't know if I'm giving her a lifetime of admin issues declaring her original name.

You don't get asked it much. If you need security clearing you'll get asked, but as the old surname is her father's name it won't be a shock.
Once she has a passport, the BC is rarely used.

The only thing I can see being an issue is if you do it half-heartedly and change it or not change it but use both surnames (Pamela Pomelo at school, Pamela Dadsname on BC etc - that would mean certificates not matching and things)

I've told you what I think and fgs stop worrying. Get her surname changed to yours. Shift the dad's surname to a middle name.

Unusual surnames are far more interesting and she'll have her own identity.