Opinions on this situation

[IrisRuby]

I have had a little girl named picked for years it is a family name too. My mother in law is best friends with my DH ex gf mum (firat gf serious relationship) she had a baby and used the same name as my daughter's' but it didn't bother me(just thought she had good taste in names) A few years later she picked a name that had been on the cards for years. DH made a comment said it's weird his ex has the same baby names as us, but I'm not changing it as this is a family name also and have been my favourite for years. I think it's because my MIL and his ex gf mum are close may look we copied I dont really care about this it's just what DH said.

Depends does DH have shared kids with the ex - then it would be odd as his child will have sisters with the same name - otherwise I see no problem, but a name needs to be agreed by both parents really and it doesn’t sound like your DH is on board

It completely depends on how you both feel about the situation- if your DH really isn’t comfortable with it then it might feel uncomfortable for you as a family. If you both feel fine about it then I don’t think anyone else will mind / notice - just do what feels right to you both.

what situation? I don't see one

Are there shared children? But if it makes your dp uncomfortable then I don't think you can use it, sorry.

Do you think your mother-in-law is telling the other lady your name choices, which are then copied by your partner's X?

No they don't share children

Most likely I think so but I didn't mind at all as I think no one owns a name. When my husband met me I already had a 3 year old daughter and then a couple of years later his ex named named her daughter the same name, but it didn't bother me I just thought I wonder if she heard my mother in law mention it and thought I like that name.

It's a bit weird if they are copying you. But you should name your kids what you want just maybe don't tell mil until after they are born.

No situation. Chose the name/names that you and your husband like!

Also, good advice from a previous poster; don't tell anyone about what names you and your husband are discussing/planning/choosing. Decide name/names between the two of you. When the baby has arrived, then you can tell people.